Posts by larrynbabies

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The pain has kicked in

by Pistoff in

hi all and thanks for being here and caring.

i have had a bad day today.

most of you have heard me rant and rave about my thirty years in the borg, not yet over.

We are listening and we are here. I am saying this because sometimes when we are in pain that is what we need the most. To know that someone is there. To know that we are not alone. You may feel at times wheather or not you should sacrifice yourself back to the organization to gain the closeness of those you have lost. This is the most terrible thing,the people who have isolated themselves from you have made a choice. To persicute someone for what their religious beliefs are, or lack thereof is just wrong. It goes both ways I know that I at times have alot of resentment towards the ones who played a part in the suicide of my childrens mother but I cant let that eat me up inside. All we can do is be there for them and hope that they will come around. Live your life, at times it may totally suck but you, at least, are living your life not letting someone dictate how you should feel and treat others. Lead by example,use patience, tolerance, love and forgiveness as your guide and others will follow.

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JW Grandparents trying to steal my babies (happy ending)

by larrynbabies in

i just wanted to let you know that we recieved the judgment today and we won!!!!!

i will get my babies back this sunday.

i have just had a huge load taken off my shoulders.

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Yes the grandparents will have the babies every other weekend. I am not totaly unhappy about this. I have always wanted them to be a part of the babies lives and I would be the last person to completely deny them their grandchildren. Their daughter has died and they are the last tangeble piece of Megan on this earth. I do not want my children to have the same intolerance the they so easily have. If I did I would not be setting a very good example for my children. Someday in their lives they will face a situation where the ability to show tolerance and love will maybe be the helping hand that can save a person or themselves. I will probably never trust my babies grandparents so for that I will be wary of them but I will not degrade them or speak ill of them in front of my babies. If anything I feel so very sorry for them they are so missguided. Maybe after all of this they will come around in their thinking and wonder weather it was all worth it.

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JW Grandparents trying to steal my babies (happy ending)

by larrynbabies in

i just wanted to let you know that we recieved the judgment today and we won!!!!!

i will get my babies back this sunday.

i have just had a huge load taken off my shoulders.

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Yes my life will be filled with cartoons boo boo's and oh those smelly diapers I am so happy I will hear the funny noises see the funny expressions and have to be a loving referee through the conflicts. I am so happy.

Larry

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update on jw grand parents trying to steal my babies

by larrynbabies in

well today was a very trying day in court.

megans parents have completely snowballed the guardian ad lietem.

he did state however that he had not had the opportunity to talk to all parties involved and that his descision to recomend megans parents could be changed by the testimony over the next couple of days.

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I am glad to say that the nightmare is over I have just won the custody battle for my babies I will get them back this sunday I want to tell everyone who has supported me through the last few months thank you. Thank you for all of your kind words. There were times when I was very down and I know that I will never get over the loss of my babies mother but you have helped me in ways I cannot express. You truley are a godsend I will never forget.

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JW Grandparents trying to steal my babies (happy ending)

by larrynbabies in

i just wanted to let you know that we recieved the judgment today and we won!!!!!

i will get my babies back this sunday.

i have just had a huge load taken off my shoulders.

larrynbabies

I just wanted to let you know that we recieved the judgment today and WE WON!!!!! I will get my babies back this sunday. I have just had a huge load taken off my shoulders. The last few months have been a nightmare that is finally coming to an end. I can focus on the fact that I will be allowed to be a father to my twin sons and I don't have to worry that my children will be indoctrinated into the same life that Megan was. The last thing she would have wanted was for her parents to get our babies.

I have thought and prayed alot about Megan and I miss her so. At this point I can start to heal. I can look forward to a life with my children and I will be allowed to show and tell my babies about thier mother. They will know thier mom through thier fathers eyes and they will love her too. I want to thank you all for all of the kind words and encouragement. I have gained hope and strength with your help.

Thank you soooooooooo much

Larrynbabies

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New here...(my story and a request for help)

by stephaniesays in

i was raised in the organization.

my stepfather was a ministerial servant but was removed when i was 14, due to family problems, which he blamed on me (he was abusive, physically, and was told that if he cannot control his family, he could not be an example to the congregation).

i became pregnant at 15 and have not really lived around my family since then.

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One main reason is thier complete lack of tolerance for any opinion or thought except for what is thiers. It's either thier way or the highway. You have no room for a life in the real world. It just can't be done not without having to live with a major guilt trip. You are already feeling guilty and they havent even got thier claws into you yet. Your best bet is to back away from these people they will come between you and your husband and possibly destroy your family. I know this sounds somewhat extream but take the time to read the stories of people who post here.

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Lost my job cause of the dubs!

by kelpie in

these last two weeks have been just plain awful for me... 2 weeks i hope to never have to go through.

firstly my mum disowns me, then i lose my baby and get an infection from the miscarriage.

i go back to work after having 10 days off to find out i have lost my job.

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kelpi I am getting ready for church and dont have time but I will give you a much better reply when I get home.

I am sorry for your troubles however. I know this is of little comfort but when it rains it pours I will be back in a few hours

larrynbabies

PS hit your refresh button and you will see your posting and reply

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Suicide and JW'S

by obiwan in

i have personally had experience with this.

a long time friend committed suicide because of her husband and the problems they were having.

he abused her and ended up leaving her, the elders wouldn't help out much stating that it was a marital problem.. she couldn't cope with him leaving, she was extremely dependant on him, she felt the only way out was suicide.

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In brain imaging studies, researchers have found that the hippocampus—a part of the brain critical to memory and emotion—appears to be different in cases of PTSD. Scientists are investigating whether this is related to short-term memory problems. Changes in the hippocampus are thought to be responsible for intrusive memories and flashbacks that occur in people with this disorder.
People with PTSD tend to have abnormal levels of key hormones involved in response to stress. Some studies have shown that cortisol levels are lower than normal and epinephrine and norepinephrine are higher than normal.
When people are in danger, they produce high levels of natural opiates, which can temporarily mask pain. Scientists have found that people with PTSD continue to produce those higher levels even after the danger has passed; this may lead to the blunted emotions associated with the condition.
Research to understand the neurotransmitter systems involved in memories of emotionally charged events may lead to discovery of medications or psychosocial interventions that, if given early, could block the development of PTSD symptoms.
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Suicide and JW'S

by obiwan in

i have personally had experience with this.

a long time friend committed suicide because of her husband and the problems they were having.

he abused her and ended up leaving her, the elders wouldn't help out much stating that it was a marital problem.. she couldn't cope with him leaving, she was extremely dependant on him, she felt the only way out was suicide.

larrynbabies

I will also note it is a scientific fact that someone going through PTSD does undergo physialogical and chemical changes in the brain. Thus resulting in the most severe and prominent forms of depression. So there for it is a fact not an oppinion that external factors have an influence in depression and suicide. You need to read up on traumatic events and depression. It may keep you from making ingnorant postings in that regard in the future.

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Suicide and JW'S

by obiwan in

i have personally had experience with this.

a long time friend committed suicide because of her husband and the problems they were having.

he abused her and ended up leaving her, the elders wouldn't help out much stating that it was a marital problem.. she couldn't cope with him leaving, she was extremely dependant on him, she felt the only way out was suicide.

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You know that in order to do a scientific study on suicide in the jw communtiy you would have to take in a number of factors.Do weinculde those that die from not accepting blood? I would think so. then would we ever get all of the information from the organization about active memebers I think not. Of course let us not forget the predomenant numbers of those who commit suicide due to having been molested and raped. Let us not forget those who have commited suiced by having been dis-fellowshipped having been shut off from all of those who once thought loved them including family members. It is simply do to the organizations failure to admit the truth in these matter that unfortunatly a scientific studywill be very hard,if not impossible to do. If a-holes like that want to come into this forum and make blind and ingnorant statements like he has. Then let us pray for god to give him a dose of his own organizations medicine.

The organization still has a way to reach out and hurt those who simply want to stay away. Lyin, Ladylee, Myself we need I know it is hard to take the high road and have forgiveness of those who tresspass against us but you know we are human and it is natural and valid for us to thing very badly about this guy. I know i do in my first posting here I was going to call him a number of things but i really feel sad and embarrased for him. What a fool.

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