Suicide and JW'S

by obiwan 65 Replies latest jw experiences

  • obiwan
    obiwan

    I have personally had experience with this. A long time friend committed suicide because of her husband and the problems they were having. He abused her and ended up leaving her, the elders wouldn't help out much stating that it was a marital problem.

    She couldn't cope with him leaving, she was extremely dependant on him, she felt the only way out was suicide. She left behind 2 kids and a husband who showed no remorse, her sister ended up taking the 2 kids, he didn't want them.At the funeral witch was at someone's home not at the kh all they could talk about was that she would never be resurrected.No mention of the pain and suferring, no mention of the kids, no mention of the father/husband who failed them.

    I'm posting this subject to see how many out there have experiences with suicide and the damages caused by it.

  • shamus
    shamus

    Um, hundreds...

    There was another long and painful thread just recently... look under "suicide"... I am not going to type out my story again.... and, there was a lot ofhorrible stories from our members here...

  • cruzanheart
    cruzanheart

    My dad committed suicide on February 16, 2003, mostly as a result of his treatment by the elders.

    Nina

  • obiwan
    obiwan

    (((cruz))) I am so sorry!

  • endoftheline
    endoftheline

    My cousin (we were very close) jumped off of a bridge the day b4 Princess Di died when faced with re-df’g. Childhood friend used CO2 from his car when faced with choosing staying with his non-JW gf or being df’d (his mother was one of their precious 144).

    You have hit on a topic that disturbs me mightily. The correlation in this org is so great – that it blows my (non-JW) wife’ mind.

    Oh, and the best part – the double standard that is used with their remaining family after the act. "oh, they will inherit….He will understand and….." it’s all bs.

    End.

  • LyinEyes
    LyinEyes

    My Mother committed suicide in 1985, after a short stay in a rehab center for prescription pain pill abuse, and four months after being d/f for smoking.....something she picked back up in rehab.

    She had been a faithful JW elder's wife, my dad cheated on her with a sister from our congregation that is only 8 years older than me,,,,,,and did all of this in the months before she hit rock bottom and went to rehab, all the while he was a practicing elder, and even had the woman in our home while my mom was in the hospital for the overdose , before the rehab had a place for her.

    She got a letter in the mail saying she had been d/f for smoking, her heart was broken, over my dad, his throwing her away, and all the years of wanting help but it only being brushed under the rug , because dad was the P O. No one tried to call her, no elder went to her apartment, not one of them went to see her in the hospital, no one went to see her in rehab. Just a cold and to the point letter of being D/f,,,,,,, she was sure Jehovah didnt love her anymore and that she had committed the unforgiveable sin, which to her meant doing something you know is wrong. Which she felt she had a list a mile long, and was so full of shame and guilt and I guess she couldnt see her way back to Jehovah.

    And no wonder,,,,,,,,,,,, not a hand , and I mean not a hand reached out to her,,,,,,,,,, they did leave her in the cold, left her in the rain, so to speak and slammed the door in her face like she was a no good dog.

    You do not treat anyone like that. Especially someone who is just getting off of drugs, has depression and is sick , in many ways.

    If an Elder would have reached out to her, maybe she would have understood she could be forgiven and that she was wrong about the unforgivable sin. But no one gave her that ,,,,,,and no one showed up at her funeral,,,,,,,,,no one sent cards or flowers or even tried to comfort me , I was a faithful JW, talk about loving support from your brothers and sisters. They make me sick to this day.

    My mom was only 35 years old.............Don't worry Mama, I wont let your story go untold,,,,,you didnt think you were worth anything, but you were . Someday there are going to be some who will have to answer for their hypocrisacy.

  • LyinEyes
    LyinEyes

    Here is a pic of my Mom........Lura Anne,,,,,,,,with one of her favorite cats,,,,,,,,,,she used to say this cat seemed to know when she was down, as he would crawl on her and rub his face on hers. She took alot of comfort in this cat ,,,,,,,,,,I guess that is where I get my love of animals from too, and so much more. I hope that I see my Mom , smiling like this again someday..........I miss ya , Mama.

  • SheilaM
    SheilaM

    Lyin:I've said this before but I am so sorry She is beautiful and you look so much like her. She is holding a Maine Coon, mine always knew when I was down or Thunder They have such wonderful personalities.

  • cruzanheart
    cruzanheart

    The resemblance is amazing, Dede! But I think you are so striking with your dark hair.

    See you soon!

    Nina

  • LyinEyes
    LyinEyes

    Growing up I always thought I looked so opposite of my mother,,,, I did, dark hair , brown eyes, compared to her red hair and blue eyes.......We had alot of people tell us we looked like sisters, and I never saw the resemblence at all.

    Now I can see it more and more, the older I get,,,,,,,,,and I can see I got some of her qwerky ways too. I really try hard to remember the good times, as I relate the stories of her saddness to you all and how her life ended. I wish I had time to tell you all the great things about her,,,,,,,,I feel if she would have just given herself a little more time, just one more chance , she would have been so wonderful today, she would have been a strong person like she once was.

    It feels good to be able to have someone ( ya'll) to talk to about her. For so long, all the JW's didnt even talk about her, like it was a forbidden subject. Anyway,,,,,,,, it's nice to share the whole picture of her personality with you all.

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