My Mother committed suicide in 1985, after a short stay in a rehab center for prescription pain pill abuse, and four months after being d/f for smoking.....something she picked back up in rehab.
She had been a faithful JW elder's wife, my dad cheated on her with a sister from our congregation that is only 8 years older than me,,,,,,and did all of this in the months before she hit rock bottom and went to rehab, all the while he was a practicing elder, and even had the woman in our home while my mom was in the hospital for the overdose , before the rehab had a place for her.
She got a letter in the mail saying she had been d/f for smoking, her heart was broken, over my dad, his throwing her away, and all the years of wanting help but it only being brushed under the rug , because dad was the P O. No one tried to call her, no elder went to her apartment, not one of them went to see her in the hospital, no one went to see her in rehab. Just a cold and to the point letter of being D/f,,,,,,, she was sure Jehovah didnt love her anymore and that she had committed the unforgiveable sin, which to her meant doing something you know is wrong. Which she felt she had a list a mile long, and was so full of shame and guilt and I guess she couldnt see her way back to Jehovah.
And no wonder,,,,,,,,,,,, not a hand , and I mean not a hand reached out to her,,,,,,,,,, they did leave her in the cold, left her in the rain, so to speak and slammed the door in her face like she was a no good dog.
You do not treat anyone like that. Especially someone who is just getting off of drugs, has depression and is sick , in many ways.
If an Elder would have reached out to her, maybe she would have understood she could be forgiven and that she was wrong about the unforgivable sin. But no one gave her that ,,,,,,and no one showed up at her funeral,,,,,,,,,no one sent cards or flowers or even tried to comfort me , I was a faithful JW, talk about loving support from your brothers and sisters. They make me sick to this day.
My mom was only 35 years old.............Don't worry Mama, I wont let your story go untold,,,,,you didnt think you were worth anything, but you were . Someday there are going to be some who will have to answer for their hypocrisacy.