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  Research Study Proposal: Cults and Psych Disorders

  by kitties_and_horses_oh_my! in

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  i know i haven't been around for awhile, but a main reason is that i'm going to school for my psych degree and it's a lot of work.

  that being said, i have the opportunity to do some undergrad research work funded by washington state university.

  i have to submit a proposal and if it's accepted they'll fund my work to a limited amount.

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  To clarify, the paper and compiled results would NOT name individual subjects. No one will have any way of identifying you personally, even my professors.

  Steve, thanks for your insights. At this point I'm just beginning to rough out the study. On one hand, narrowing the sample to "ex-jws who pub present" etc. will help - I think it's better to go into a subject with a simple, well-defined question and get the clearest answer you can, esp at my beginning level of research. I'll be working my profs to design the study in accord with appropriate scientific methedology (sp? it's late) and to really make this study of some benefit - perhaps a starting off point for future research by myself or others. I hate "junk science" (aka Psychology Today) which just detracts from people's respect for the field and half the time propogates misunderstandings. (There's enough of that done by real researchers! lol) You sound like you have some knowledge of research methedology - would you mind looking over the study as I map it out? I'd be interested in your take on things.

  Thanks everyone, this might be quite exciting!

  Kitties
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  Research Study Proposal: Cults and Psych Disorders

  by kitties_and_horses_oh_my! in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know i haven't been around for awhile, but a main reason is that i'm going to school for my psych degree and it's a lot of work.

  that being said, i have the opportunity to do some undergrad research work funded by washington state university.

  i have to submit a proposal and if it's accepted they'll fund my work to a limited amount.

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  Hi everybody! I know I haven't been around for awhile, but a main reason is that I'm going to school for my psych degree and it's a lot of work. That being said, I have the opportunity to do some undergrad research work funded by Washington State University. I have to submit a proposal and if it's accepted they'll fund my work to a limited amount. Now, this won't be anything like a major study designed by PhD's, but it's a start. (I'm headed towards my PhD, so I have to start doing a lot of research, presenting findings, etc., hence this project.)

  I've thought about ideas and what came to me was actually simple: we've discussed on here, countless times, the prevelence of mental health disorders in cults.

  My question, before I delve into this headfirst, is who would be willing to go to a website and fill out an anonymous but highly personal questionnaire about mental health, length of time as a dub, etc.?

  Thank you!!!

  (Of course, the compiled results and paper will be available for everyone.)
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  Hugs to All - I'll Miss You But....

  by kitties_and_horses_oh_my! in

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  i'm not going to be on the board anymore and just wanted to say thank you for all the help you've provided me.

  if you do want to write sometime you can always ask doc for my e-mail address.

  i've met some really wonderful people but for a variety of reasons just can't be here right now.

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  I'm not going to be on the board anymore and just wanted to say thank you for all the help you've provided me. If you do want to write sometime you can always ask doc for my e-mail address. I've met some really wonderful people but for a variety of reasons just can't be here right now.

  Btw, I'm also getting rid of IM so don't think I'm ignoring/avoiding you if you're on my IM and you don't see me anymore.

  Hugs,

  Kitties
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  Anybody have their tree/ decorations still up?

  by Sunspot in

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  we just took ours down last night!

  the first "after-wts" year that we celebrated christmas, i left everything up until the 7th of january!

  it doesn't seem like we've enjoyed them long enough!.

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  After Christmas I feel a strong urge for "spring cleaning" (although it's still the middle of winter lol) - I just need to scrub, get rid of the clutter. I scrub every inch of the house, lightbulbs to baseboards, and feel calm again. It's a relief to see smooth surfaces with nothing on them. Oh well, I've always been a bit anal about cleaning - ask lostreality! hehe
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  Ladies.....do you enjoy a good cigar now and then?

  by Sunnygal41 in

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  lol..........so, okay, every once in a while, i enjoy smoking a cigar............right now, i'm enjoying a backwoods sweet aromatic...........i love the taste.........it's very mild...........and, i'm enjoying an after dinner shot of romana black...........please share at your leisure and pleasure...........

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  Doodle shared her vanilla cigar with me last time we visited - yummy!
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  Personal Pain - (long post)

  by Savage_Buda in

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  personal pain - - .

  personal pain comes in many different shapes, sizes and forms.

  it has many names like ?issues?, ?baggage?, ?events?, ?thorns?, ?demons?

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  Savage,

  I'm always amazed how well you understand JWs, especially considering you never had the privilege(?) of being one.

  Depending on the level of the pain, some become depressed and turn to alcohol to face it. Some see doctors and explain the pain but instead of getting to the root problem they prescribe a pill of it (note ? some issues do require appropriate medication ? point is ? doctors can be too quick to say take this pill instead of getting to the root cause).

  I know we've chatted about this before, but yes, I think you're right. And when I was on psych meds, I bore responsibility for this, too. I'd go to my psychiatrist - stressed, unable to cope, crying - and he'd write out another prescription. But it was my decision to stay with that doctor, my decision to fill the prescriptions, my decison to swallow pills that I knew were turning me into someone I didn't understand or even really like that much. That said, pls don't take offense if you're on meds or think I'm saying they're always the wrong choice. But yes, learning to live without them - for me - has been an amazing blessing. It's been painful as hell at times, but the root causes are simply too buried for me when I'm on meds for me ot have any chance to reach them.

  But as you sit there and analyze your feelings ? it turns in to anger and betrayal.

  Do you think exdubs are rather incapable (in general) of feeling anger? I guess everyone feels anger at some point, but are exdubs better than avg at stufifng the anger so far down that they don't even realize it exists? And then maybe the previous quote also comes into play: alcohol, pills. It is incredibly hard for me to be angry at anyone, no matter what they've done to me, and most of my exdub friends are the same way.

  Ah, it's 1:30 a.m. and I'm fading fast, I want to reply to the rest of your post but it will have to wait till I get some sleep. Have a great day!
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  I am a newbie....

  by sistaintheback in

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  i posted here a couple of months ago when the site had a little different format.

  there was an area for newbies with concerns and that's where i lurked.

  i have been in the "truth" for about 30 years.

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  Dear Sista,

  I'm glad you're here. I felt weird here at first, too - my gosh, Jehovah is going to strike me with lightening or at least the elders are going to find out somehow! hehe No, but seriously, I know it is so so hard to be leaving, esp. with so little support. All I can say is this: do not stop learning. Do not stop reading. Search. The Witnesses encourage this, right? Searching is not a bad thing. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

  Love much,

  Kitties
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  I miss my kids so much I'm hurting!! :(

  by outbutnotdown in

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  i have tried to put on a brave face lately but i think i need to release some tears and emotion.

  (ok, it's starting already... .

  (i have made posts lately as formerout but i am now back on as outbutnotdown, as i had been for a year and a half earlier...password lost.

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  I have such a HUGE passion for emphasizing the positive rather than the negative. I know it sounds simplistic but it is very REAL to me!!!!!

  Dear Brad,

  It doesn't sound simplistic to me at all. I work with a little boy who's autistic and the program we're using with him is called the Son-Rise Program. With this program we choose to think positively as much as possible. It's a heck of a lot harder than people may realize. In the end, though, the pay-off is much greater peace of mind - something it sounds like you and I agree on.

  I was thinking about what you said about your kids wanting to be with mom right now and not you: hun, you of all people know how intelligent your children are, right? So right now they're being pressured and coerced into thinking and feeling things that are not part of who they really are or how they really feel/think. I know this doesn't sound very positive - my god, I wish there was an easy solution - but your kids are smart and they will 100% for sure figure out exactly what games are being played and being whom.

  Please keep us informed - we're all pulling for you and for your children!! If you'd like to chat sometime, pm me and I'll give you my IM address.

  Best wishes,

  Kitties
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  Any advice on tattoos?

  by carefully faded in

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  i've been faded for almost four years now.

  i've decided in the last month or so that i would really like to treat myself to a small tattoo.

  i'm going the conservative route and plan on getting it on my lower back - so it can be seen when i want it to be, but also easily hidden when necessary .

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  Hmm, as to pain - I agree with what everybody said, if they think you've been drinking they'll say no way (if they're a good place). I've heard what Princess said, too - the nearer the bone, the more it hurts. I guess I was just lucky!

  Kitties
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  I miss my kids so much I'm hurting!! :(

  by outbutnotdown in

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  i have tried to put on a brave face lately but i think i need to release some tears and emotion.

  (ok, it's starting already... .

  (i have made posts lately as formerout but i am now back on as outbutnotdown, as i had been for a year and a half earlier...password lost.

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  Brad, I only have a second tonight but your post caught my eye and I just wanted to join my hugs to everyone's here. We love you, we wish you the best. That you won't keep your kids from their mom despite what's going on with that side of their family is the sign that you truly love them and are doing what's best for them. You sound like an amazing, amazing person. Much love, Kitties