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  Your Ideal Partner...

  by Gadget in

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  2. relationships

  dr pawlowski from wroclaw university, poland, has found that the perfect height ratio to find your ideal partner.

  aparently the man should be 1.09x taller than the woman.

  this would give my ideal partner height at 5ft, which more than half of my girlfriends have been!!!.

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  Well, I'm 6' 1" so that would make my ideal partner 5' 6", but for some reason, I've always been attracted to women between 5' and 5' 3".

  Walter
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  Filing for Divorce

  by iiz2cool in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i got married while i was a jw and have been married for 16 years.

  the last 10 years have been totally loveless, and we have merely existed under the same roof, nothing more.

  now that i've disassociated myself we have nothing in common at all.

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  I neglected to mention that we don't have any children, which should make things less complicated.

  Walter
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  Filing for Divorce

  by iiz2cool in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i got married while i was a jw and have been married for 16 years.

  the last 10 years have been totally loveless, and we have merely existed under the same roof, nothing more.

  now that i've disassociated myself we have nothing in common at all.

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  I got married while I was a JW and have been married for 16 years. The last 10 years have been totally loveless, and we have merely existed under the same roof, nothing more. Now that I've disassociated myself we have nothing in common at all. The only thing we ever really had in common was the cult, but now all we do is argue about it. I suspect my wife is already considering divorce too, but is waiting for my mother to pass away, so that she can get half of my inheiritance. She can legally do this if I receive it while we are still married. My mother doesn't have long to live, as she's 81 now and has cancer.

  I don't know anyone who has gone through a divorce, so any advice on this would be appreciated.

  Thanks

  Walter
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  Do family/relatives still hound you about going back? what do they/you say?

  by run dont walk in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  no lie 10 years after i left, my family still thinks i'm coming back one day, get a grip, the last conversation i had, i kinda lost it a bit with my mom, and more or less said why would i go back, when russell/rutherford made everything up as they went along.

  well that was a conversation stopper, and my brother/sister called alittle while back, i mentioned the un thing, child abuse scandals, and a few other things, i am not kidding, they pretended that they new nothing and that these things probaly never happened, just the media making up stories, how do you reason with that ???

  i said :" well don't take their word for it, investigate yourself so you know, and read the entire watchtower history 1879-2003, read it yourself, if you are not willing to then shut up !

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  I sent in my DA letter in June and they finally announced it in the three congregations that I used to attend three weeks ago. It sure took them long enough. But now, every time my mother sees me she tells me I should apologize to the elders and get reinstated. Hahahaha! So I told her that I don't get it - THEY protect pedophiles but I should apologize??? What kind of warped thinking is that? I guess it's typical for a JW. Come in to the troof! Leave your brain at the door!

  I'm glad I finally found mine.

  Walter
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  How Many are Single? How Many are Looking?

  by Robdar in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i find myself finally becoming accustomed to the fact that i am single again.

  i am no longer thinking in couple terms and i now cook to please only me.

  it's fun and scary all at the same time.

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  Single? Not yet, but probably very soon. There wasn't much reason to stay together before, and now that I'm no longer a JW we have nothing at all to talk about. I have an appointment with a lawyer this week.

  Walter
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  How ADDICTIVE is this site???

  by ninecharger in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i came (in the mundane sense), over this board, it was thrilling to find others who had the same viewpoints, insights, and completely opposing shitty religious fairy tales.. after lurking and now, posting, i have to put a clock by my pc.

  no more than half an hour a night.

  (that is why i jump in sometimes, and get folks angry...).

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  I'm addicted to this site. It helps that, like Gumby, my computer chair is the most comfortable chair in the house. It's a nice high backed, reclining leather chair, and I could stay there all day long. I manage to take some time out for meals, work, sleep, and a little debauchery now and then. But a recent visit to the hospital to see my mother convinced me that I would go totally nuts if I were ever confined like that without internet access.

  Walter
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  Do you remember your first date?

  by Nathan Natas in

  1. jw
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  i'm having a "minimus moment" - .

  i've got meat loaf's new cd "couldn't have said it better" playing, and the question occured to me - i'm sure all of us recall some details of their first date - anyone out there brave enough to tell us about their experience?.

  (with thanks to minimus for the inspiration).

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  I went to a concert at Ontario Place alone and met a girl there. We were both 16. On the way home we had sex behind a train station, then again on a beach on Lake Ontario. Then I took her home. We dated for a few months after that, but she ended up moving to Manitoba.

  Walter
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  What If Jehovah's Witnesses Are Right?

  by shamus in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  the "what if" thing comes to mind... no matter how much i strongly believe that they are not, what if armageddon happened tomorrow and they were correct?

  would you have any sorrow for being wrong???.

  i, personally would not.

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  I agree with you Shamus. I've often told my wife that I'd sooner roast in a burning hell than live in a world filled with people like that. Not that I believe in a burning hell either, but if I had to choose...

  Walter
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  Grading of Disfellowshipping Offenses

  by RAYZORBLADE in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just putting this out to you.. have you encountered, or noticed on occasion how what you were disfellowshipped for, also dictates who will associate with you, post-jw?

  yes, i'm talking about those beloved ex-jws/df'd/da'd/apostates.. by that, i mean, if you were, let's say, disfellowshipped for scriptural/doctrinal issues, perhaps in the ex-jw world, you hold yourself or others of that ilk, in higher esteem?.

  those that were disfellowshipped for smoking, heavy drinking or drug use, perhaps as previously not strong people.. those that were disfellowshipped for sexual misconduct: (file under: other) and similar to the above.. it's interesting.

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  I haven't been out long enough, or met enough X-JW's to notice a trend, but I have noticed that some are more interested in scriptural debates than others. I noticed that some of these quickly grow impatient with those who aren't really into scriptural discussions. Personally, after 20 years of being a JW, I've had more than my fill of that sort of thing. I left over doctrinal issues as well as issues I had with the conduct of the society in certain matters.

  Really, when you think about it, we're all out because of doctrinal issues. The issues could be about:

  What constitutes morality, and where does personal freedom of choice enter the picture?

  Is smoking REALLY unscriptural? This could be debated at great length.

  Are blood transfusions unscriptural? This too can be debated endlessly.

  Interpretation of scriptures is another big one. And the list could go on...

  I don't feel any compulsion to convert the converted, or anyone else for that matter. But if someone has a question, or needs help, I'll do what I can. As far as I'm concerned, we've all done the right thing by leaving, regardless of how our exit came about.

  JMHO

  Walter
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  How did you adjust to the world after leaving JW land ? friends/lonliness ?

  by run dont walk in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  how long did it take you to adjust to the real world ???

  and make real friends, who didn't care about religion.

  did you suffer from lonliness and depression after leaving ???.

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  My disassociation was only announced about two weeks ago, so I'm still trying to re-integrate into the normal world. Mostly, I correspond with a few people over the internet, and I've had the pleasure of meeting a few in person, such as Rayzorblade and Aztec, who have done alot to encourage me.

  Walter