I swear that Panyhose were created by Satan Or a man...either way I refuse to wear "hose" from March until November!
Garnet
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Fashion Fluff....Questions for the Ladies....
by teenyuck insince it is friday and i am in a fluffy mood..... fingernails....long/short; painted, bare?
french manicure or nothing?
i had my nails *done* a few months ago and there was a man there getting a full set of acrylic nails.
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"Don't Quit"
by Garnet injust had a little something i wanted to share with everyone.
a few years back, when i was in high school, i was a very depressed teen (who wasn't .
don't quitwhen things go wrong as they sometimes willwhen the road you're trudging seems all up hillwhen the funds are low and the debts are highand you want to smile, but you have to sighwhen care is pressing you down a bitrest, if you must, but don't you quit life is queer, with its twists and turnsas everyone of us sometimes learnsand many a failure turns aboutwhen he might have won had he stuck it outdon't give up though the pace seems slowyou may succeed with another blow success is failure turned inside outthe silver tint of the clouds of doubtand you never can tell how close you areit may be near when it seems so far so stick to the fight when you're hardest hitit's when things seem worst that you must not quit ~author unkown.
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Garnet
Hi All,
Just had a little something I wanted to share with everyone. A few years back, when I was in high school, I was a very depressed teen (who wasn't ). My therapist gave me a copy of a poem to read whenever I felt like I needed to "quit", and it always picked me up and made me feel like I could get through anything. Anyway, just thought I would share with everyone in hopes that it may cheer some people up when they are down
Don't Quit When things go wrong as they sometimes will When the road you're trudging seems all up hill When the funds are low and the debts are high And you want to smile, but you have to sigh When care is pressing you down a bit Rest, if you must, but don't you quit LIfe is queer, with its twists and turns As everyone of us sometimes learns And many a failure turns about When he might have won had he stuck it out Don't give up though the pace seems slow You may succeed with another blow Success is failure turned inside out The silver tint of the clouds of doubt And you never can tell how close you are It may be near when it seems so far So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit It's when things seem worst that you must not quit ~Author Unkown
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Feeling Pretty Bad
by rebel ini hate mondays!.
i also feel bad because i have been receiving subtle hints from my hubby that he may be leaving me.
we have been married for 24 years, have 4 beautiful, intelligent children (one is no longer with us), we have been though troubles, worries, the death of our darling claire, money problems - you name it - we've been there.. now - because i have different religious views to him, he doesn't think he can associate himself with me any longer.
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Garnet
(((Rebel)))
I am very sorry to hear what you are going through. I wish I could give advice, but wouldnt know where to start. I can give you a set of ears to listen and a shoulder to cry on.
Keep your head up
Garnet
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Why On Earth Did You Ever Become A Witness & What Made You Decide To Leave?
by minimus ini've known for years that if i was visited at my home by jehovah's witnesses, i would have become a do not call.
i would have firmly but politely told the witnesses to never come back to my door and bother me again.
since i was raised "in the truth", i learned the religion from infancy.
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Garnet
Hi Minimus,
Thanks so much for the input I really do appreciate any advice anyone can give. Like I said earlier, I have been fading away slowly, it seems to be the only way without the harsh consequences. My husband just wants nothing to do with it anymore, but hasn't made the attempt at a letter. I will definately look up the pro's and cons...do you know where I can find them?
Thanks again!
Garnet :)
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Why On Earth Did You Ever Become A Witness & What Made You Decide To Leave?
by minimus ini've known for years that if i was visited at my home by jehovah's witnesses, i would have become a do not call.
i would have firmly but politely told the witnesses to never come back to my door and bother me again.
since i was raised "in the truth", i learned the religion from infancy.
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Garnet
Well I started to study when I was 18...which I was always told is "amazing" that I could drop my whole Teenage/College years and study the "truth". I was completly wrapped up, I believed, like so many others that I would see my family again, loved ones, friends...etc...All these hopes and dreams. I noticed the cliques, the prejudices in the congregation, and so many other things (we all have stories, don't we)
After 5 years of not ever feeling "good enough" or "worthy" or even conisidered "spriitually strong" I started to realize something...I do not answer to Man, I answer to God. Thats when it all started...I got curious to what the "world" had to say about the Org. I found FreeMinds and read, and searched and read. I still have A LOT of reading to do, a lot of research, and a lot of soul searching. I am confused as to what is right, which bible to read, which things to beleive. That is when I knew that the WTS did not have all the answers and when I sat down and and started to think on my own, I couldn't handle the "shunning" or the "conditional" love that people have. I am not like that. Without sounding self righteous, I love all people, regardless. I just cannot see shunning a loved one or a friend because "THEY" tell me to, its not right and it certainly is not Christian.
So that takes me to now...I am "fading" or at least trying to. My husband wants to write a letter for the two of us, I just can't let go of my friends...but are they truly my friends if they shun me? I am glad that I found this board, I see a lot of giving and recieving of support here. I truly feel that this is a place where we will find UNCONDITIONAL LOVE :)
~Garnet
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Another Df'ing/suicide...in memory of a dear friend...
by Ghost of Esmeralda inthings have calmed down again with my mother to the point where i found myself once again in her kitchen last night.
drinking too many cups of coffee as i always do at her house, i imagine if i were a smoker i'd have been lighting one cigarette after another instead.
it had been a pleasant enough evening, i sat there with my crocheting in my lap, something i always take with me to my mother's house so that if i get nervous or stressed out, my hands, and my mind, have something to do and somewhere to go.
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Garnet
Esmerelda,
Thank you for sharing that sad story, I can feel your pain just by reading your words. I too like so many others have made the attempt, looking back I cannot even believe that I was so down and out that I would even try such a thing. The ironic thing to me is that I joined the JW's to "get away" from those feelings and a few years later, realize that being in the Org. made me feel more guilty, less of a human, etc...I am trying my hardest to "fade away" but for some reason don't have the guts to just write that letter. I belive that in due time I will find the strength.
I again am very sorry for the pain that you are going through, unfortunately many of us know too well the same pain and can relate, but you will recieve much comfort from your friends here.
Much love to you & Take care
Garnet
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Local Needs Talk Given About My Family
by minimus inthis week, the local needs talk dealt with showing loyalty to jehovah and his organization.
the account of achan and his family was discussed.
because they did not report what achan had done, the entire family was punished by jehovah with death.
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Garnet
A similar thing happend to my husband and myself...actually we had JUST started dating and since I had just started to study with the JW's and my husband wasn't baptised, he had to sit 2 seats away with his parents in the middle, was not allowed to talk about his "new girlfriend" or anything like that. Well for the following 4 years until we were engaged we dated "secretly" which wasn't a big secret anyways. There were always talks about dating unbaptised sisters, I felt so bad that they embarrassed him like that in front of everyone.
I was also questioned numerous times about conduct after he was in his car accident. Since he was bedridden for weeks, he needed someone there at all times, so between family and myself, we took shifts...they counseled me on the possibility that we could have sex....this was after he was almost killed in a car accident! Here is this poor guy laid up on the couch, barely able to move and they were worried that if I was "un chaperoned" we would have sex.....like I couldnt wait that whole extra 4 weeks until the wedding!
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I need to vent
by blindfool ini haven't posted much lately, i've been busy with so many things.
i'm really pretty well adjusted to being part of a jw family, my wife and all of her family are jw's.
these people who say they are so full of love.
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Garnet
Hi Mystery,
No we didn't, we had to rent a room at a hotel...which was a pain in the neck, esp. so close to the date...And just as a kicker there was a "Majic" card competition going on next door!
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I need to vent
by blindfool ini haven't posted much lately, i've been busy with so many things.
i'm really pretty well adjusted to being part of a jw family, my wife and all of her family are jw's.
these people who say they are so full of love.
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Garnet
Hello All! I am new to the board, but also need to vent!
Right before my husband and I were married I was in a bad car accident and then 2 months later, my husband was almost killed by a drunk driver. The Doctor in the ER had falsely stated that my husband had been drinking and he was couseled for drinking and driving...right in the ER! Later that eveing the Dr. came back and said that his blood work showed that he had NO alcohol in his system. I knew he hadn't been drinking and driving...he isnt a big drinker to begin with anyway.
Anywho! 1 month after the accident we were to be married in the KH, 2 weeks before our wedding day the Elders pulled us into the back room for "a discussion" We knew something was up, but didnt know what...The Elder that had already accepted the request to perform the wedding decided that since our meeting attendance slipped (mind you, I now have a condition that spurs frequent mirgraines and at the time was going through PT for the injuries to my back, and my husband had been laid up for 1 month already..he was very very lucky) and he did not feel comfortable marrying us. He also said that we were not "spritually mature" to be married and that we could no longer use the KH to be married in....Nice Huh! I cried my eyes out and refused to look at them in the face...I was so angry and hurt. THEN they had the balls to ask us to "push the wedding off for another 6 months until our meeting and service picked up"...two words...FT...My father was recently diagnosed with Cancer, and my Step Dad could have dropped at any minute...I wanted them to see me walk down the aisle. They made me feel selfish and also made me feel that God would not accept our marraige... NOW I feel better It's good to vent...I am just very happy that I found a place where I can realease all these feelings and NOT have to worry about being "judged". I am looking forward to reading and sharing thoughts with all of you.
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newbie
by Freedomrules ini'm just trying to figure this site out.
i'm inactive jw for 8 years.
my whole family is jw.
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Garnet
Welcome to the board...I am also very new...I have been hanging out doing a lot of research before I decided to make my first post...which, this is it! I am hoping that I can get lots of advice from others out there.