Sam87
What you believe about the determination of sexual orientation isn't really that relevant unless you can back it up with decent research and evidence. Opinion is one thing, demonstrable fact another.
Homosexuality is common in nature and represents part of the spectrum of normal sexual behaviour observed in the wild.
http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2004/07/0722_040722_gayanimal.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/europe/6066606.stm
http://www.bidstrup.com/sodomy.htm
http://www.amazon.com/gp/explorer/031225377X/2/ref=pd_lpo_ase/104-7435113-9905542?
There is as yet no final agreement WHY homosexuality occurs. There is the genetic argument;
If one meta-analyses available research one gets a figure of about 36% as regards the heritability of the behaviour; in other words choice or environment (including pre-natal environment) is twice as strong in determining sexuality than genetic pre-disposition.
There is also a strong possibility that the level of hormones in the womb play a strong role in determining sexuality;
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prenatal_hormones_and_sexual_orientation
Additionally it seems that there must be some non-choice factor involved in a sizable number of homosexuals as there are identifiable differences between heterosexual physiology and homosexual physiology
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality#Physiological_differences_in_homosexual_persons
Away from the arena of research, anecdotally we find many homosexuals feel they always were homosexual from when they first had sexual or 'pre-sexual' feelings.
Is it important to you whether homosexuality is choice or not?
I love science, have studied human sexual behaviour, but couldn't give a flying act of copulation whether it is choice or not. I've just had these discussion SO often it's rather easy to trot out the facts.
- Homosexual and heterosexual sexual intercourse is, from the ages of consent set by law, sexual activity between two (or more) people who can competently consent to the activity.
- Such sexual activity between two or more people does not harm uninvolved parties, whether that sexual activity is homosexual or heterosexual.
- Thus even if people were choosing to be gay or straight, it doesn't matter a damn as they do no harm to uninvolved parties by that choice.
Thus, no matter what the conclusion of science is, what's the big deal?
What often gets missed in conversations about homosexual sex is LOVE. Some people get so totally bogged down in genitalia they lose sight of the love; they "can't see the love for the genitals" I suppose.
This is further highlighted by the fact some men think homosexuality is 'wrong' and 'un-natural', but like the idea of two women together, or like the idea of anal sex (with a woman). Not that anal sex necessarily has anything to do with being gay in the mind of someone who knows a bit, but to the above mentioned group it's synonymous.
This is very sad, as to most gay people, just like to most straight people, the person you LOVE is most important in life. In this respect gay and straight are identical.
Even when homosexuals have fought the law and won the right to be gay without threat of legal interference, the fact it is about LOVE is clearly shown by gay marriage being a very important issue to many gay people; they want the rights and protection and RECOGNITION for their relationship, their love, that heterosexuals can get without a second thought.