Forscher
Nice summary and analysis of material provided previously in links. You miss out the pre-natal (non-genetic influence) the uterine environment has. As with most such complex questions, the real deal probably lies not in any one factor.
I don't agree with the definition of animal studies as problematic. They just show that animals form lasting homosexual pairs, and that some such pairings even produce offspring... which is what we see in human homosexuals... which kind of makes the word 'un-natural' raher inaccurate...
I do agree with "folk will believe what they want".
- Certain people will believe gayness is a choice as they believe god said it was bad and therefore it CANNOT be something a person had no control of, as if it was god would not punish someone for doing something they have nop control over.
- Certain people resent gayness being made-out to be biological as they feel this somehow changes being gay in an unfavourable fashion.
- Others couldn't give a ferk why people are gay.
Qcmbr
The bizarre argument about not being able to choose who you are attracted to is a lie.
Is it now? Okay, say I have 100 gazillion people at gunpoint, and will shot them unless you CHOOSE to be attracted to men. Will you be attracted to men? No, of course not, at most you could pretend. Thus I find your contention "not being able to choose who you are attracted to is a lie" is unproven.
When you get married you make a conscious decision to deny all feelings for others and commit yourself to one person only.
That person is of a gender you are attracted to, or are pretending (so good you can fool yourself) you are attracted to as a result of pressure from societal or familial expectations.
And if you "make a conscious decision to deny all feelings for others", you are kidding yourself; all you can do is decide to "commit yourself to one person only" even if you DO become attracted to others in the future.
It is perfectly possible to close off your feelings or desires - it is a permission of the will.
Ha! This is simplistic - you cannot eliminate the thought, only squash it if it occurs and not act on it. If you are otherwise you have achieved what many people have tried (and failed) to do for normally religious reasons - to eliminate sexual desires. How special... or is this a rose-coloured mirror?
I suspect that almost all 'gay' tendencies as all 'straight' tendencies are a result of a choices we make.
Your opinion is irrelevent no mater how important you might think it is. Facts are what lead this discussion.
Before puberty I was not at all interested in girls/boys (along with the majority of children I would suggest) but that didn't make me gay (or straight), when I hit puberty I went through a very confusing and scary experience where I suddenly had sensations I had no preparation for and didn't quite know what they meant.
I would say the cluenessness you felt on hitting puberty had a lot to do with your upbringing. Did your parents talk about sex, make it obvious sex was a natural part of their life, discuss with you what you might expect as you grew?
It is no surprise to me that many come out of that scenario with a confused sexuality especially in a society that thrusts choice upon the ones who are most confused.
Again, a simplistic analysis. You assume their confusion results from being gay. You ignore the fact the confusion could be about being attracted to the same gender and not being able to accept or act on this attraction without negative concequences. You confuse common-or-garden teenage angst with the trauma a gay teen feels if they are raised in a environement where their being gay will cause them problems.
Now to confront the idea that people say they 'knew' they were gay at a very early age - I say bull - I would suggest that having found themselves having made a gay lifestyle choice they then retrospectively find proof in their past.
Coming from someone whose opinions are formed around their religious beliefs before any reference to reality I find your attitude ludicrous. You believe this, and you believe what you do about human origins, purely due to you being in a cult. Get over it.
Hell if I wanted to be gay I could look back on my childhood and find times when I didn't find women attractive but definately chose to hang out with other boys and could then make the leap
Hanging out is rather different from being ATTRACTED TO. Boys hang with boys and girls with girls as they have common interests and past-times. Boys ferk boy if they are attracted to them, likewise girls ferking girls. Boys and girls who are attracted to each other ferk each other. It really is that simple...
All I ever knew was that sex was some arcane mystic experience that adults had and it was all disgusting - 'you mean my parents do that ewwww!'. During puberty I found out (to a lesser extent!) what all the fuss was about but unfortunately I still feel a bit wigged out by the thought of my parents...OK I'm not going there.
Grow up; you wouldn't be here if your parents didn't do 'it', and if you don't like the fact your parents carried on doing 'it' then you are obsessing about the sex when you should be celebrating the love.
I think it is wrong to discriminate against someone for their lifestyle choice but I do have an issue with arguing its natural (sex is natural but penguins getting the wrong hole does not constitute the right to wear a gimp mask, abuse vegetables nor for men and women to justify their same sex decisions - why do you need a penguin as the excuse?
Gay people don't need excuses; if you are so unbiased why do you feel they need an excuse?
Your characterisation of the ample evidence that homosexual behaviour is part of the natural spectrum of many species' sexual behaviour makes it obvious you've not studied the subject - it is so not 'getting the wrong hole'. If you are so un-biased why the false characterisation? Or is the "I'm unbiased" lip service?
I would have more respect if people who chose to be gay just said so
I would have more respect if people who had religiously predicated opinions just said so
If I was having feelings toward a bloke I'd want to find out why since I know my genetics couldn't be responsible, my body couldn't be responsible (its just not built for men) and so I'd be looking at what was going on in my head that was making me feel that way.
Here you state things that simply are unknown; you cannot state that genetically speaking it is impossible to be attracted towards the same sex or not as there isn't enough evidence. But you seem to feel qualified to state what the vast majority of scientists (and most posters who've bothered quoting facts) do not feel qualfieid to state. Modest!
People don't like to feel they are to blame for their gratification of urges.
Qcmbr, if urges do not result in harm to uninvolved parties, why are they wrong?
If you ignore all else, answer this one...