Posts by Bruja-del-Sol

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How Do You Generally View People and Yourself?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i tend to look at people and situations with a little bit of humor.

i tend to feel that many view themselves as being better than they really are.

people's perceptions are often skewered.

Bruja-del-Sol

Never had many true friends. Got along with most of the JW's I've met over the years in several congregations, since I was a pleaser and always afraid of rejection. Since I've left the WTS there have been a few (worldly) people whom I came to care about deeply, but there are only three people in this world that I really trust from deep down inside of me and that I can rely on when it's really needed, and that's my children and my husband.

All the rest... I like a lot of people, even really love some, but I've been hurt by way too many to ever trust people again the way I used to. Too many people have used me for their own convenience, to 'get something' that I could provide but when I needed thém or their support... gone they were, dropped me like a hot brick. So how do I look at people? I like people, but don't let them come very close anymore.

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Have you grown detached from caring about JW family and old friends?

by tootired2care in

jw
friends

after being out of the borg for a year and a half, weve dealt with a lot of nonsense from local elders stopping by unannounced, well-meaning do-gooders trying to encourage us.

somehow weve managed to get through this without getting dfd/dad.

for me the worst part of it all has been that much of my family has shunned me, and stopped talking to me, as soon as they heard through the grapevine that i wasnt going to meetings.

Bruja-del-Sol

At the beginning I felt lonely and missed my former friends and relatives a lot, but now after nearly 12 years I don't really care for them anymore. One of my four siblings and I are still in touch (she never bought any of the WTS crap and never got baptized) and part of me still cares about two other siblings, although it hurts how they've treated me. And I feel sorry for my grandmother who's nearly 90 and still a firm WTS believer. I know she misses me, but her consciense doesn't allow her to see me or talk to me. The rest of the family, my parents, youngest sister, aunts, uncles... I really don't care what happens to them. I don't feel any need to ever see them again. The things they've said and done have hurt me too bad.

And as for friends... one friend was like a sister to me, I loved her to bits, even after me being DF'd we still had contact every now and then, until I realized that the only thing she wanted was to get me back in the cult. So the last time she emailed me was to tell me about some new book of the org. and I told her that I didn't want it, and that I would never ever return or be reinstated. And that was the bitter end of our friendship.

Sometimes I hope that my brother and sister and that specific friend will 'see the light' and find a way to break loose from the cult, but I think that things would never be the same again. We've grown apart for so long, it's like I'm from another planet... So i've learned to live with the idea that I'll never see them again in my lifetime.

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Elders receive a report that I am openly displaying false religious symbol

by confusedandalone in

when you look at the image above what do you see?

a sneaker or an outward display that i am now following after another religious group?.

well yesterday i had a 10 minute conversation with an elder who finally got the balls to call me.

Bruja-del-Sol

CAA, isn't it a good idea to record any incoming calls from now on? Would be so funny to hear conversations like this for real and expose them online.

Just showed your shoe-pic to my non JW husband and asked him what thought came to mind by seeing your shoe... his answer: "rasta"... hahahahaha.... When I told him about the call you received he was mind blown and couldn't believe this happens for real! Even I am having a hard time to decide whether this is something to be upset about or just laugh... it's too crazy, things like this happen in really bad written movies, meant to be funny but nobody laughs...

Looking forward how this story will continue... you did a good job by the way, guarding your boundaries!

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Microsoft is the true religion!

by processor in

in the light of current events (the witchtower editor is currently visiting the district convention of microsoft's witnesses in berlin, meeting "more than 500 brothers at one time"):.

http://www.svhelden.info/witchtower/2012/05/how-can-you-find-the-true-religion/.

how can you find the true religion?windows in his roof chamber being open ... even three times in a day he was kneeling on his knees and praying and offering praise before his god.

Bruja-del-Sol

Hilarious!

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Wife and kids are officially OUT!!

by Oneoutallout in

my wife has told her jw best friend and jw sister that she is givng up the religion!!

and there was i worrying about losing her when i left the cult.

and, to top it all, my 15 and 13 year old children are using their critical thinking skills and can see it all for what it is.

Bruja-del-Sol

Congratulations, wish you happiness and a wonderful future as a free family!

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Since leaving the truth, do you celebrate holidays, and does your participation in such bring you happiness?

by Stand for Pure Worship in

jw
friends

i ask this respectfully, and do so after watching a favorite show of mine's season opener which had a new years storyline.

hollywood tends to make movies and television show episodes centered around holiday themes appear warm and blissful.

while i'm thankful to have never participated in such holidays, i can't deny my curiosity about ex-jws that do celebrate.

Bruja-del-Sol

@Shirley: I've told my age on another thread and have no intention of repeating it. Let's say I'm well over forty. My not going into the 'bullying'-thing is that I really hate discussions and you've said what you had to say, as I did. Nothing more to add to it. As Forrest Gump would say "that's all I have to say about that"

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Since leaving the truth, do you celebrate holidays, and does your participation in such bring you happiness?

by Stand for Pure Worship in

jw
friends

i ask this respectfully, and do so after watching a favorite show of mine's season opener which had a new years storyline.

hollywood tends to make movies and television show episodes centered around holiday themes appear warm and blissful.

while i'm thankful to have never participated in such holidays, i can't deny my curiosity about ex-jws that do celebrate.

Bruja-del-Sol

@Shirley: you're wrong about my age. My children are of the younger generation, they're in their twenties.

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New Book Published

by satinka in

i have been threatening to publish a book about growing up in the jw religion, then leaving as a mature adult.

well, it's 368 pages and it's done!.

introduction to the book.

Bruja-del-Sol

What a beautiful post Satinka! You've really touched me with it. My feelings are so two sided most of the time. On the one hand I feel strong, a survivor, a fighter, a woman who found her way in life all by herself, someone who fought for her freedom after 33 years of 'cult hostage'... On the other hand I often feel insecure, weak, alone sometimes since I find it hard to make new friends (I often choose exactly the wrong people, give too much of myself and end up disillusioned when they end up not being worth my time, energy and affection). I have a wonderful husband but he's never been a JW and doesn't understand a lot of my upbringing in the cult...

So your posting is 'balm for my soul'... especially today, don't know why, but I've been weepy all day... so thank you for your encouragement.

With love

Bruja.

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Blood sausage

by stillin in

while visiting our neighbors across the pond, i visited a butcher store to rustle up something for supper.

that was the first time i had ever seen blood sausage.

we just never see it over here in the states.. when a witness leaves the organization over there, do they all eat blood sausage once again?

Bruja-del-Sol

Oh gosh... haggis... Ate that too once... when I was sixteen and my father took me to a Scottish club in London... Only the smell of it made me feel sick, let alone the taste... YUK!

I love Ireland and the Irish, I'm very fond of Scotland and the Scottish, but some things on their menus are way too much for me...

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Blood sausage

by stillin in

while visiting our neighbors across the pond, i visited a butcher store to rustle up something for supper.

that was the first time i had ever seen blood sausage.

we just never see it over here in the states.. when a witness leaves the organization over there, do they all eat blood sausage once again?

Bruja-del-Sol

Years ago, when I was still in, I went to an Irish pub (in the Netherlands) with my family. We ordered their regular meal, with things like sausages, beans in tomato sauce, mashed potatoes... and the menu also said 'black pudding'. Now you must know that the word 'pudding' in Dutch means 'dessert'. So we figured 'black pudding' is some kind of desert. We ate our meal. And there were some round 'thingies' on our plates which the children didn't like, and my (then) husband and I thought it tasted a bit weird with a lot of clove but we just ate it (that's probably Dutch... you eat what you've paid for )

When we finished our meal we were waiting for the dessert... but it never came. So we asked the waitress "we're waiting for the black pudding"... and then she said "you've had it!"... We probably looked really stupid, but then all of a sudden it 'hit us'... those weird 'thingies'... that was the black pudding! And then it started dawning to us that we might have been eating blood... We asked the waitress what 'black pudding' is made of... and to our disgust she said 'blood' (amongst other ingredients which we didn't hear anymore!). I had to do my utter best not to vomit in the middle of the pub!!

As I said, we were still JW's, so we felt very guilty for a while, but we really had no idea, so who could blame us??

Ever since I have never had black pudding, blood sausage or anything like that again. I do eat liver every now and then, and I love a medium rare steak, but that one experience with black pudding has made an impression!

Luckily my new husband doesn't like it either...