Posts by KateWild

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Fade Fail: Not as Easy as I'd Like

by Hadriel in

this has been tough.

very tough actually.

because i'm so integrated into things including certain tasks which i can't say as it would be a dead giveaway i find myself constantly bombarded by things.. i'm literally a lying every day.

KateWild

Hi Hadriel,

It sounds like you've still got responsibilities in the KH. One suggestion I saw once was to start being incompetent at your tasks.

This is really hard if we have a good work ethic. But it beats lying to people everyday. Some elders learn TTATT and continue serving because they enjoy the power and responsibilities that come with being elders.

My daughter faded without any consequences such as bad reputation but she still lost her friends. This is what happens.

Others just learn TTATT and stay in for good. They are just trapped by their families.

Sorry to hear you're struggling hope you find a solution that best suits you and your family.

Kate xx

38

Pairing!!!!!

by brandnew in

jw
friends

dangit.......like i gotta cook for this hot chick tonight, ........i rented a suite at the mayaguez beach hotel, and she's totally into me.

i have my jeep....im still sore from my wreck....but dangit...im into this girl and i need y'alls help.

im californian....kinda been in the tropic forrest..bout 2years....and need some southern help.

KateWild

Glad you had a nice date. Are you seeing her again?

Kate xx

37

am i overreacting?

by freeandcontent in

hi, new here but have been lurking for a while.

some background first, i am from the uk, 3rd gen born in, dad, grandad elders etc.

17 years ago i left, no df or da just left, 18 years old and alone but i did it and have had no regrets.

KateWild

Calebs Airplane,

You make a good point, that's what I used to do with my kids when waking up. It worked a treat. Perhaps then the young children will wake up Grandma and Grandpa with their logic.

Out of the mouths of babes

Kate xx

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Ladies: Circumcision or not?

by Wonderment in

the topic of circumcision has been brought up a few times recently.

then i wondered... .

how do women really view circumcision?

KateWild

wow I didn't realise that so many people who are not males that had been circumcised had such strong views. And whilst what has been said is relevant and sensible it doesn't substantiate that all males that have been circumcised feel as if they had been mutilated or emotionally abused.

My son is more traumatised with other things in WT during his life than missing foreskin, my brother is unaffected by his circumcision and my father is unaffected by his.

I don't feel I was abusive or any members of my family were. But I am certainly going to discuss the pros and cons with my children and get them to do some research to draw their own conclusions and I will not give them a bias view that they should continue to circumcise sons to follow my family decisions.

This thread has given me food for thought. Thank you all for giving me this new perspective that I have mutilated and abused my son.

Kate xx

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I dont know how i can leave my family!

by BlackWolf in

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friends

my mom and i were talking today about how next summer i will be 18 and she said that just thinking about it might make her cry.

that made me think about how much more it would hurt her if i quit being a jw.

i really do love my parents, i know they are just being cruelly manipulated by a cult and that they really think they are doing what is best for me.

KateWild

Blackwolf,

You have a dilemma and it's difficult because you really love your parents. Sometimes they leave too.

My daughter started having doubts the same time as me and so did my son. We all left within months of eachother

Kate xx

37

am i overreacting?

by freeandcontent in

hi, new here but have been lurking for a while.

some background first, i am from the uk, 3rd gen born in, dad, grandad elders etc.

17 years ago i left, no df or da just left, 18 years old and alone but i did it and have had no regrets.

KateWild

Welcome freeandcontent.....very difficult to find a balance.

Thanks for your experience Leela1 it's very apt for this thread. I am sorry this happened to your family

Kate xx

36

Gay ex-Bethelite

by Chip Williamson in

just now finding this web site and have enjoyed reading the comments.

i've never written down my story and it could be a jerry springer episode but here goes.

i was raised as a jehovah's witness from as early as i can remember.

KateWild

Hey Chip,

Great story, it will help others in your position

Kate xx

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Only a few days ago I was entirely lost and without hope the rug was pulled out from under me

by elderess in

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friends

only a few days ago i was walking around the house in a mindless wander thinking if i needed to seek professional help.

then i got the courage to seek the comfort of complete strangers on the internet and found a world of support here on this website.

thank you simon and whoever else has made this website possible.

KateWild

Welcome elderess,

Thank you for your story. It was wonderful to read

Kate xx

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Fading is never 100% successful is it?

by nicolaou in

mum phoned last night to see how we all are.

after fifteen years away from meetings and my old jw life you'd think my fade could be called 'successful' and for the most part it is.

.. my resentment at being lied to and having wasted over thirty years of my life has left me like a glass of water full to the brim, it only takes a tap to make a mess.

KateWild

Sorry to hear about this nic,

My parents were never JWs and I had someone to run to when I was Df'd, my daughter faded too and my son is out too.

It sounds like even though I have been out two years I am more out than you due to my circumstances.

I am so sorry this cult has put such a terrible strain on your relationship with your mum, and you still feel there are things left unsaid. It's so frustrating for me as I want to stop you feeling so restricted.

Sorry Nic

Kate xx

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Ladies: Circumcision or not?

by Wonderment in

the topic of circumcision has been brought up a few times recently.

then i wondered... .

how do women really view circumcision?

KateWild

What is appalling about removing foreskin?

Many people say the penis is cleaner and less susceptible to infection without foreskin.

How do you know about sexual stimulation? There isn't any research that can be done to compare this.

Kate xx