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  Ladies: Circumcision or not?

  by Wonderment in

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  the topic of circumcision has been brought up a few times recently.

  then i wondered... .

  how do women really view circumcision?

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  KateWild

  wow I didn't realise that so many people who are not males that had been circumcised had such strong views. And whilst what has been said is relevant and sensible it doesn't substantiate that all males that have been circumcised feel as if they had been mutilated or emotionally abused.

  My son is more traumatised with other things in WT during his life than missing foreskin, my brother is unaffected by his circumcision and my father is unaffected by his.

  I don't feel I was abusive or any members of my family were. But I am certainly going to discuss the pros and cons with my children and get them to do some research to draw their own conclusions and I will not give them a bias view that they should continue to circumcise sons to follow my family decisions.

  This thread has given me food for thought. Thank you all for giving me this new perspective that I have mutilated and abused my son.

  Kate xx
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  I dont know how i can leave my family!

  by BlackWolf in

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  my mom and i were talking today about how next summer i will be 18 and she said that just thinking about it might make her cry.

  that made me think about how much more it would hurt her if i quit being a jw.

  i really do love my parents, i know they are just being cruelly manipulated by a cult and that they really think they are doing what is best for me.

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  KateWild

  Blackwolf,

  You have a dilemma and it's difficult because you really love your parents. Sometimes they leave too.

  My daughter started having doubts the same time as me and so did my son. We all left within months of eachother

  Kate xx
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  am i overreacting?

  by freeandcontent in

  1. jw
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  hi, new here but have been lurking for a while.

  some background first, i am from the uk, 3rd gen born in, dad, grandad elders etc.

  17 years ago i left, no df or da just left, 18 years old and alone but i did it and have had no regrets.

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  KateWild

  Welcome freeandcontent.....very difficult to find a balance.

  Thanks for your experience Leela1 it's very apt for this thread. I am sorry this happened to your family

  Kate xx
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  Gay ex-Bethelite

  by Chip Williamson in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  just now finding this web site and have enjoyed reading the comments.

  i've never written down my story and it could be a jerry springer episode but here goes.

  i was raised as a jehovah's witness from as early as i can remember.

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  KateWild

  Hey Chip,

  Great story, it will help others in your position

  Kate xx
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  Only a few days ago I was entirely lost and without hope the rug was pulled out from under me

  by elderess in

  1. jw
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  only a few days ago i was walking around the house in a mindless wander thinking if i needed to seek professional help.

  then i got the courage to seek the comfort of complete strangers on the internet and found a world of support here on this website.

  thank you simon and whoever else has made this website possible.

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  KateWild

  Welcome elderess,

  Thank you for your story. It was wonderful to read

  Kate xx
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  Fading is never 100% successful is it?

  by nicolaou in

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  mum phoned last night to see how we all are.

  after fifteen years away from meetings and my old jw life you'd think my fade could be called 'successful' and for the most part it is.

  .. my resentment at being lied to and having wasted over thirty years of my life has left me like a glass of water full to the brim, it only takes a tap to make a mess.

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  KateWild

  Sorry to hear about this nic,

  My parents were never JWs and I had someone to run to when I was Df'd, my daughter faded too and my son is out too.

  It sounds like even though I have been out two years I am more out than you due to my circumstances.

  I am so sorry this cult has put such a terrible strain on your relationship with your mum, and you still feel there are things left unsaid. It's so frustrating for me as I want to stop you feeling so restricted.

  Sorry Nic

  Kate xx
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  Ladies: Circumcision or not?

  by Wonderment in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the topic of circumcision has been brought up a few times recently.

  then i wondered... .

  how do women really view circumcision?

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  KateWild

  What is appalling about removing foreskin?

  Many people say the penis is cleaner and less susceptible to infection without foreskin.

  How do you know about sexual stimulation? There isn't any research that can be done to compare this.

  Kate xx
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  Ladies: Circumcision or not?

  by Wonderment in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the topic of circumcision has been brought up a few times recently.

  then i wondered... .

  how do women really view circumcision?

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  KateWild

  I had my son circumcised also. No big deal. I don't think it's as abusive as being in a cult and being shunned.

  Kate xx
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  Actively Fading and The Memorial

  by All for show in

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  2. friends

  those of you fading- with the memorial approaching are you going to appease family?

  not going and making up an excuse?

  acting like your going but not really?.

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  KateWild

  I am not a fader. I wish I was but I spoke my mind to quickly. Last year I was encouraged to go to the memorial.

  As I am df'd it's just another opportunity to be ignored and shunned......I would rather talk to JWs at the trolley than go to a memorial.

  My daughter is a fader and stopped going two years ago and never attended a memorial.

  Kate xx
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  Ladies: Circumcision or not?

  by Wonderment in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the topic of circumcision has been brought up a few times recently.

  then i wondered... .

  how do women really view circumcision?

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  KateWild

  The actual anatomy has no bearing on the priority in a relationship. If a man is generous, considerate, has a sense of humour and intelligent. It doesn't matter to me if he does or doesn't have foreskin.

  I have no preference

  Kate xx