Avishai -
I see what you are trying to say - that a woman does it 'cuz she thinks she can get away with it. I'm here to testify (in my jock strap) that yes, there may be some women who do hit men because they think they are cute or drunk or are entitled to do so just 'cuz they are a poor helpless woman who has to show her man what a meanie he is. But that is the exception, and not the rule. It is my perception that if a woman gets so mad that she resorts to hitting, it is because she feels as if she is not being heard or understood, and the frustration builds up and for some reason, it is the only way they can show their extreme frustration. Does this make it right for a woman to hit a man? Absolutely not! However, knowing that the reason most otherwise respectful women hit is because they are not being heard or understood, I can guarantee you that the certain look in the eye that Puternut describes, coupled with the words, "I love you" can certainly make a considerable difference in the situation. Not only is the woman getting what she really looking for (even though she is not showing it in an appropriate manner), but the man is mature enough to diffuse the situation - not escalate it - by recognizing why she hit him in the first place - and then follows through with it.
Avi - I like you. I even put you on my list of people I would like to meet in person, so please don't mistake my next statement as anything other than my personal opinion which is not directed at you in anyway. This is how I see things: If more men in situations where a woman resorts to hitting would understand the real reason that most women do so, I have no doubt there would be a dramatic drop in domestic violence. The fact of the matter is that men are stronger than women. Therefore, the men need to realize that they have the ultimate power to diffuse the situation - unless - he chooses to escalate it. That is right - I said choose. It is a choice whether one wants to escalate a situation by retaliating no matter what the reason is behind the the other's hitting - or find a more peaceful solution that works for both people. On top of that, if the situation happened in reverse, it would be up to the woman to decide whether to hit back or not - if she could still stand after the first punch. Of course, more men get the opportunity to choose after the first slap or hit or punch from a woman - than do women. But when deciding whether to hit anyone back - no matter how justified or unjustified the first person was in hitting in the first place - depends upon whether you prefer to choose the high road - a peaceful solution such as Puternut suggested - or the low road - and ride it all the way down with the one who hit first.
Now, please, help me find my clothes so I can leave you in peace!
growedup
