OMG! I promised myself to check on you over the weekend, (as you said you would be on the board a lot), but my goodness, girl! I honestly don't know if I could handle all this much stress at one time! I have no doubt that if this were all happening me at the same time, I would require an IV of valium hanging from a stand with wheels! Jeez! When it rains, it pours!
I will say that I think you are verrrrrrrry smart to draw the line in the sand with this guy. Crack, no matter how addictive and no matter how much someone may want to quit (it sounds like this guy doesn't) is UNACCEPTABLE. The fact that he decided to have a meltdown while you are so stressed is a bit selfish, too, if you ask me (which you aren't, but that's okay! Advice is free today! )
The most encouraging thing I can think to say is that I'm glad you know you have friends here who support you. Just know that you are doing the right thing and there is a better plan for you out there. I'm a firm believer in that God never has a "Plan B" for us - he just has another "Plan A". I sincerely hope that your next "Plan A" beats the socks off this one! (Wouldn't it be cool if it were a "AA" or even a "AAAA"?! )
I know you have a lot going on, but if you want or need to, you know you can call me anytime, and I am happy to listen. (I'll pm you my cell number - I'll be out in the yard all day today).
Hugs to you,
growedup