go with your wife......... but bring along crisis of conscience for some light reading........ lol jk
thing is you know where your real friends are............... and that they wont judge you, same cant be said of the dubs.
if it was any other meeting besides your wifes bf id say tell them to piss off.
who knows those foolish elders and other stuck up a$$holes could truely show your wife what that org is truely about and then that might make her leave