Thank you all for your responses and tips. Up until now, my husband has not been willing to discuss this. Last night was a game changer. It was almost like he was looking for me to prove to him that the Watchtower was wrong so he wouldn't feel guilty anymore. And i really want his conscience to be free. We celebrate mostly everything, although he is always reluctant. He has felt very disappointed that i shattered his dreams of having a family worshipping Jehoober together. But he followed me out because he loves me and didnt feel comfortable anymore going to the hall alone. It is complicated, for sure. But i hope to get prepared, and next time this subject comes up, hopefully he will be willing to accept it. I think he will. Yay!! He will make a very good apostate lol
Posts by monis
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16I need ideas for my hubby
by monis ini have been out of the org for several years.
i faded.
my husband became inactive but still believes that the jws have the truth.
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I need ideas for my hubby
by monis ini have been out of the org for several years.
i faded.
my husband became inactive but still believes that the jws have the truth.
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monis
Hello! I have been out of the org for several years. I faded. My husband became inactive but still believes that the jws have the truth. He talks about going back. Last night he got drunk and said he wants to go back. We never have really had a deep conversation about why i left. I have only mentioned the pedophile issue.
well, last night he basically told me that no one is perfect and that the jw's teachings are correct. I said i disagreed. He invited me to share what i meant. I said, "Jesus died on a cross." He asked me what else. I said we could talk about it another time. Because i do not believe in the Bible anymore, i haven't paid attention to the doctrinal errors of the jws.
I believe that the key to my husband's waking up is to tell him where the jws ate wrong in their doctrine. But i need help with that. Ideas?
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One mom, half a dad, and at least three friends lost... But at least 4 lives "saved" from WT mind control... 400 to go
by ILoveTTATT inso... i have just posted a link to freedom of mind and the bite model on fb.... .
i am gonna take a snapshot of the # of friends on fb and the ones i have after i tell people privately that i don't want to be a jw anymore..
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monis
Hello! i am glad that you and your best friend found out that you both know TTATT. maybe your fb status will dig up
more? i wish i had the guts to put that up on fb... good for you!
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i finally had "the truth" talk with the hubby
by monis ini have been inactive for a couple of years.
he has too, but wants to go back.
he has never researched anything about jws.
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monis
thank you all for the suggestions. I think i will order a copy of COC in Spanish and share it with him.
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i finally had "the truth" talk with the hubby
by monis ini have been inactive for a couple of years.
he has too, but wants to go back.
he has never researched anything about jws.
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monis
i should add that even though we ard inactive, i have never before really talked about why i faded. my husband was under the impression that it was because i was stumbled by the brothers. it was too painful for me to tell him that this religion that i wholeheartedly believed in most of my life is a cult. so we never talked about it until now. it felt good to get some of it out
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i finally had "the truth" talk with the hubby
by monis ini have been inactive for a couple of years.
he has too, but wants to go back.
he has never researched anything about jws.
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monis
i have been inactive for a couple of years. He has too, but wants to go back. he has never researched anything about JWs. i told him about candace conti case and the thousands of others, about watchtower policies on child abuse. i told him how JWs feel superior, how they say that only JWs will survive Armaggedon. He was shaken by what i said. He responded that maybe the organization is imperfect, but that they teach the truth about the trinity, the paradise earth, etc. I would like to develop a response to that, but i am not sure how to go about it. any suggestions are more than welcome. he is willing ti listen, so that is a start. thank you.
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Teach your Child how to think!--and what ive learned this far!
by DS211 ini am reading "teach your child how to think" by edward de bono.
right now im learning about attributes of a good thinker.
throughout oart 1 of the book it states that critical thinking and just learning information is not enough.
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monis
i'll have to read this book!
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Where the need is greater: TTATT in Spanish
by Londo111 init seems most of the us growth is in spanish-speaking territory, and of course, there is growth in the nations where spanish is the predominant language.
most sites oriented around ttatt, are english-speaking.
there seems then to be a great need for translators...for instance, imagine if there was a spanish version of www.jwfacts.com.. unfortunately, i dont speak this language.
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monis
i have professional experience in translating. I'm in!
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introduction
by monis ini am 39 years old.
i converted to the jws when i was in middle school due to a witness in school and my family having issues at that time.
i found instant friends and family at the kh.
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monis
Thank you for your comments and responses. I watched some of the videos. I especially like Roberto di Stefano's video. I was in an Arabic congregation also for a short time, and it was interesting that he was Egyptian born. i will keep watching and searching for ways to help my husband be freed for good. i have no jw family, so i dont really care if im df'd. My husband does, but in his country of origin, not the US. a part of me actually kind of wishes i would be df'd. if the elders told him he could leave me for being an apostate, he would take issue with that. as it is, theyve really only come over to try to find ways to df me, like they heard of my fb postings, etc.
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introduction
by monis ini am 39 years old.
i converted to the jws when i was in middle school due to a witness in school and my family having issues at that time.
i found instant friends and family at the kh.
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Hello! i am 39 years old. I converted to the JWs when i was in middle school due to a witness in school and my family having issues at that time. i found instant friends and family at the kh. i pioneered out of HS, much to the chagrin of my well educated family, who all have at least Master's degrees. i got married. my sociopath husband became an elder fast, probably due to his charm and good speaking abilities, all the while committing fraud in his business activities. when i divorced at 30, i started "getting to know" the world a little, all the while still pioneering. but by that time i was barely going out in fs; i would make up a number every month when i turned my time in. I also started finishing my BA, which started opening my eyes even more, as i was actually thinking for myself for the first time in a long time. i met my current husband, who attended a spanish cong nearby. After 3 months if dating i became pregnant. We lied to the elders and were reproved. We got married right away. as soon as i realized i was expecting, i started analyzing how i was going to raise my child. i knew that i just couldnt raise him a Jw. i started fading immediately. i used sickness as an exuse a lot, even though i am healthy as a horse. i finished my degree that same year. When our second child came, i literally couldnt stomach the meetings anymore. I became inactive two years ago. my husband followed shortly after, although he still longs for the "truth", and feels like he will go back someday.
This year has been awesome. we had Easter at our house, birthday parties for the kids. my husband really protests, but ends up going and having a good time. He said he feels like a "mundanote" (a huge worldly guy). I have not shared with him much of how i feel or what i now believe. i would like to, but i am at a loss as to how or what to say. I am afraid that he will become defensive and clam up. the only thing i have shared with him is if one (or both) of our children was to be gay, i would never shun my own child just because of that or because he has chosen a different path in life.
Anyway, this website has been awesome. i hope to learn more about what and how to share withmy husband, who really is a great person.