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  anyone had the shakes before?

  by morty in

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  well it has been 3.5 days since i had a smoke...i know your probably sick of hearing about it but, i really depend on your support here.. (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((fourm))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))).

  there has to be people here that have quit.did you have the shakes just from quiting smoking?

  i have had some real long days and nights.. i have drank water, walked a million miles,chewed gum and even took up knitting to keep my hands busy but cant get over how much i am.

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  whoa! you ARE doing good! 3.5 days! whoohoo!

  sorry to hear it's really shaking you around.

  (((mort)))))
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  Young People with Tarnished Reputations

  by Swan in

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  i have been emailing a friend recently about how many young people there must be out there with guilt or shame.

  i wrote this paragraph and got to thinking about it.

  i thought i would share it with the board.

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  Were you writing about me? Just kidding.

  This is very true. I did some things just because I felt like "well, I'm bad already, what's it going to hurt if I do this too?" If I had been less guilty about things, maybe my choices would have been different, and I wouldn't have beat myself up over them like I did.

  Odrade
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  Halloween and the JW's

  by freedom96 in

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  i remember how halloween was such a big deal for all the witnesses.

  i mean, certainly you couldn't stay home, could you?

  you couldn't hand out candy, and if you were home, you might get "tricked.

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  Tal...

  After that, one parent would stay in the city, the other would go to guard the country house from vandals.

  you had a country house???? uuummmm, naughty, naughty. Materialistic.

  hehe,

  Odrade
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  Ex-JW Singles - Post Your Info Here!

  by pettygrudger in

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  2. relationships

  lots of love connections have been made on this board, and its about time we made a few more!

  its been almost a year since there was a thread on this, and i figure its about time for an update.. so, are you single?

  if so, post a little about yourself here - perhaps there's a love connection right here on this board!.

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  Luna:

  Ht: 5'8''

  *snort*

  Fictional Character whose personality you most resemble: I'll let Odrade answer that one. I can't think of one. I'm sure she has one already thought up.

  Winnie the Pooh.)

  hehe.

  Odrade
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  Swan, Odrade, Joy2bfree, DrWtsn, Bikerchic and think41self.....

  by Princess in

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  2. friends

  your packages .

  you all are so sweet to send gifts for dim's new little baby.

  he hasn't been around here lately so i think he's going to be so surprised to see how many board friends wanted to get a little something for his daughter.. i opened all the boxes!

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  Is the party still at 5?

  boohoo. I'm down in Portland, but in a class till 4. Wish I could make it.

  Odrade
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  Question for the gentlemen.....

  by Surreptitious in

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  what brand of laundry detergent do you like to use?

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  Bwahahahahaha!! LMAO @ Watson!

  We only have to use a tiny amount in each load. Plus we don't have to put a fabric softener sheet in the dryer. Ah...life is good.

  you are such a nerd.

  Odrade
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  Loaded words

  by Odrade in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i know this subject has been done before, but.... some words we used as jws have a different meaning to us, even now.

  encourage, truth, witness, apostate, worldly... .

  so how did those words get so loaded?

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  I know this subject has been done before, but.... some words we used as JWs have a different meaning to us, even now. Encourage, truth, witness, apostate, worldly...

  So how did those words get so loaded? And are they still programmed in us?

  Here's something interesting I found in my reading:

  Emotional filters

  Each of us has what might be called emotional filters that block or distort our understanding. Most people have heard of Pavlov's famous experiment in which he taught a dog to salivate at the sound of a bell. In the 1930s, Gregory Razran, of New York's Queens College, conditioned people to salivate in response to certain words like "style" and "urn." Razran's experiments demonstrated that it is possible to systematically give words emotional connotations that are totally unrelated to their rational meanings.

  The conditioning process by which most of us develop our emotional filters is often less systematic, but not necessarily less powerful than Razran's approach. In our childhood, parents, teachers or other esteemed adults or peers may have couple words like communist, hospital, politician, black, and cop with quiet sneers, scowls, frowns, or other gestures of contempt. Other seeming neutral ideas may have been accompanied by smiles and other signs of pleasure. Once such conditioning takes place, often without design, the child (or adult) reacts to the words emotionally. The gut-level response to the now emotionally laden word interferes with the reception of messages containing that word. --- People Skills, Robert Bolton, Ph.D.

  I know for myself, anytime anyone uses a sentence with one of the loaded JW words in it, I immediately turn off. A few weeks ago, I was in a class to learn some centering techniques, and the instructor kept saying that we need to be a "witness of your true inner self. I would like to encourage you..." blah blah. It was the most unproductive class I had participated in. To me, "witness" means to go out and preach, it has a seperatist meaning... you all know... so it was most unhelpful as I couldn't even tap into the real (neutral) meaning when I tried.

  Anyone figure out a good way to "deprogram" these loaded words? And if not, how do you live with it, and still communicate with normal people?

  Odrade

  *edit to attribute quote*
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  Favourite 80's song.....EVER!!

  by ScoobySnax in

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  i make no apologies for going on about the 80's again, its just that i've been having another nostalgia music session again.....you know dig out all your favourite tracks type thing..... i nominate........ duran duran union of the snake.

  i reserve the right to change this though, with out warning......

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  Luna, burn me some CDs. I'll TRY once again to broaden my musical tastes.

  *...going to turn on Wynonna now.*

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  In The Stir

  by SYN in

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  brittle winter sunshine scattered across the damp windows of the pleasant pastures old age home?s covered balcony.

  warm air from the central heating system made it comfortable in the midst of a storm that had deposited rain so cold it turned into slush when it hit the ground.

  two old men were sitting at a small table on the balcony, sipping at cups of coffee, staring out into the sprawling garden outside the retirement home.

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  wow, chilling. I wonder if that will be my parents in another 20 years. Although the story would run a bit differently... my parents being faithful dubs, and me being the closet apostate. ugh. This whole religion is so sad.

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  Multiple boards/Multiple personalities?

  by JH in

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  going from board to board i notice how certain people who post will be so different on other board, while some don't change their style.. do you change your personality or style when you post on other boards and try to fit in and be accepted there, or do remain yourself no matter where you post?

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  I post on other boards as well, although this is the only xjw board. I'm the same person on the other boards, only my handle is different because of the "fade" thing.

  *damn fade thing, come out already Girl*

  Odrade