Ugh from both sides. While I was never married to someone who didn't share my beliefs on the surface, for several years my husband was just "going through the motions." Though I wasn't aware that he wasn't really a true believer, I did know that our so-called spiritual life was a constant struggle, sore point, and in general was very divisive.
It wasn't pleasant for him either because I was never satisfied that he was doing enough, and was constantly upset that he wasn't "taking the spiritual lead."
I would never marry someone who chose to remain a JW, since that is a huge area of her life that will be ruled by them, and it bleeds into every aspect of living, including your marriage. If she choses to embrace her JW faith and you do get married, you will always be regarded as her biggest mistake, and a dead body strapped to her back* by many in the congregation, and perhaps even secretly by her.
*"dead body strapped to the back" is a teaching of JWs that marrying an unbeliever is comparable to the Assyrian torture practice of tying a corpse to the back of a living prisoner, and letting the corpse rot the living person until they died too. This illustration was used quite often at meetings, conventions and in private conversation as I was growing up. I'm sure there are others here who could verify this heinous teaching.
Posts by Odrade
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7Question for those living in a religiously divided household.
by kgav8r ini suppose i should have labeled this as questions.
is it ever hard?
are you ever at odds with your spouse?
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rotfl!
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topic won't last long at this site
by crazyblondeb inhttp://ewatchman-exposed.co.uk/research/read.php?t=2303&reply=27#msg27 .
if this link works, i bet it don't last long.
anyone else for some fun?
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Odrade
did you see this comment by baikinguy (or whatever his handle is...)
"They told me, that, personally they cannot report such matters to the police has it is deemed has hear-say, but they will support the victim if she went to the police and they will also talk to the police."
The lies are alive and well at the Kingdom Hall. I wonder if that's the justification the elders used to not report 3 of the 4 sexual predators in my home congregation? Clergy are mandatory reporters in Oregon, btw. -
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Just thought this would be of interest to share.
by meatloaf inwhy have such a large family?
when we are out together we get questions like is this a school group?, are they all yours?, are you catholic or mormon?, dont you know what causes this?
these questions give us many opportunities to share with others the hope that is in us, that children are a gift from god.
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"receive" more children? Is Dugall an LDS? just curious...
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Question About Eyeglasses
by Big Tex inmy wife just spent $900 on 4 pair of eyeglasses.
is it just me, or is that waaaaaay too much money?
i don't wear glasses anymore (laser surgery), but isn't this too much?
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Odrade
Bwahahahaha!!!
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Disgusting comment regarding the baptism at the DC
by under_believer inat the service meeting the other day the "friends" were given an opportunity to discuss the district convention (portland, or, june 30-july 2).
) people baptized at that convention.
a bigger number than i remember for at least a decade.
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No matter how much you say that it's all behind you and you're living a great life, the fact that you're here means something. Whatever the reason, it's not been a "clean break." Just my thoughts.
Either that or I'm just a discussion board junkie who can't bear to "miss anything." Bwahahaha! Seriously, I do agree with you, nobody gets out of that unscathed. Someone this morning was joking with me that I'm pretty well-adjusted "for an ex-cultie." We laughed, because what exactly does that mean??? I guess to me, it means that I'm no longer hobbled by my past. It was a rough re-entry (well, not really RE-entry since I'd never been "normal" to begin with, ROTFL!) but I guess I'm pretty resilient, because life is good now. -
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Question About Eyeglasses
by Big Tex inmy wife just spent $900 on 4 pair of eyeglasses.
is it just me, or is that waaaaaay too much money?
i don't wear glasses anymore (laser surgery), but isn't this too much?
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Odrade
I have really terrible eyesight, so I have to get the special extra-thin lenses. My last pair were over $600 before the insurance bennies kicked down their part. I ended up paying $244 out of pocket for them... and they're not even designer.
Plus I need to fork over anther $200 to get my contacts... It's not cheap being able to see around here. :( -
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Disgusting comment regarding the baptism at the DC
by under_believer inat the service meeting the other day the "friends" were given an opportunity to discuss the district convention (portland, or, june 30-july 2).
) people baptized at that convention.
a bigger number than i remember for at least a decade.
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Odrade
Ms Whip, you didn't have a story with a happy ending.
Odrade was baptized at 15. She was the first of her friends to take the plunge, not to be the first, but because she knew she had the "truth." She pioneered for several years and was glad to do it because she thought she was serving "God." She got married in the Kingdom Hall, and kept on with service and meetings just like she thought she should. When she was in her early 30s, she found out the truth about the "truth," left the Organization, never looked back and is very happy. She doesn't take drugs for depression, didn't commit suicide, doesn't lead a double life, doesn't cheat on her husband, doesn't drink herself into oblivion, started a career, has a nice home, and pretty much has a great life.
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WT desparate: Aug 15 WT- In Our Next Issue: When A Loved One Leaves Jehovah
by truthseeker inno, i don't have this article yet, it will appear in the sep 1, 2006 wt.
it may even be a wt study article.. in the august 15 watchtower, the box "in our next issue" has three forthcoming articles, and one of them is "when a loved one leaves jehovah".
of interest, it's not when a loved one leaves the society, it's jehovah.. will keep you posted.
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Ugh. that made me nauseaous.
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FISH ON!!!!!!!!! (Eat your heart out, Breck!!)
by Gretchen956 inhere's what we had for dinner over the fourth!.
hope this comes through ok, a picture of kim (my partner) and her guide with her 10 pound steelhead caught on the cowlitz river a few miles from our vacation property.
sherry
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Odrade
Nice. I'm jealous