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Non JW girl with a JW guy

by Accio in

i want to talk about my story because i need help and advice and most impirtant a lot of comfort.. one year and a half ago i met a wonderful guy.

he was really nice and supporyed me during hard moments.

i slowly fell in love with him.

Accio

Hi.

Thank you for all your advice. It really means a lot to me.

Well I'm not a kid anymore. I'm 20. And like most of people around that age I'm kinda lost woth feelings, school, work.

. I know most of you think it's wrong I still love my JW "friend" but I can't change that

. We stopped talking for like 3 weeks but I love him. For who he is. Sadly now talking with him is just arguing... but I need to hear about him. I wish he could wake up one dayand open his eyes and realize I'm the best for him even if we don't have the same religion. It's very hard for me. I mean we brike up in October and I still feel depressed. And I already tried several ways to heal and help. It seems nothing work...

As I said the only one positive thing that happened to me is meeting this guy during my internship. He makes me laugh and smile. Sadly my internship finish in one week and I don't think he is attracted to me... and I'm a very shy girl so I'm afraid asking his phone number or telling him nice things. Cuz I'm scared of being rejected. And also maybe I'm wrong but I feel like I sound selfish when I talk with him like talking about myself and not asking him when is his birthday or if he has brothers and sisters. But he doesn't ask me that either. So I think he isn't interested. I know in one week my heart will probably be broken again...

I'm just not a pretty girl and attractive guys aren't attracted and it suck.. like this guy cuz we have a lot in common... I really wanna move on but I know I could move on when I will find a boyfriend to help me healing.

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Non JW girl with a JW guy

by Accio in

i want to talk about my story because i need help and advice and most impirtant a lot of comfort.. one year and a half ago i met a wonderful guy.

he was really nice and supporyed me during hard moments.

i slowly fell in love with him.

Accio

Thank you for your nice advice ! But I know I need a lot of love right now. I need to feel protected and loved. And this guy I met is really awesome. First he isn't a JW like my "friend" and he is different in personality and physical. I just wish I could at least be friend with him. I read once that if you have feelings for 2 persons at the same time then let down the first one cuz if you really loved this one you'd never have feelings for someone else. And it's true. Because this guy I met makes me smile and laugh and forget. Things I never felt with anyone else following my "friend" breaking up. I think I'm read to start something new. My "friend" broke up with me more than 4 months ago. So I think I have the right to like someone else. Sadly As I said I don't think this guy likes me tjat way. He shows signs of interest and also signs he isn't :(

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Non JW girl with a JW guy

by Accio in

i want to talk about my story because i need help and advice and most impirtant a lot of comfort.. one year and a half ago i met a wonderful guy.

he was really nice and supporyed me during hard moments.

i slowly fell in love with him.

Accio

Hello !

Thank you for your support and all your advice. It's really nice to see so many people helping me.

Well I followed some advice. I kinda stopped talking to my "friend" because we are both busy and he has a lot of problr

Ems lately. I miss him to be honest. I still have very very strong feelings for him and sometimes I just cry because I need him by my side. At the same I feel better. I started an internship one month ago and I met an awesome guy there. I appreciate him a lot and he helps me healing. We have sooo many things in common ! it's just awesome ! And he is very attractive. Sadly I don't think he likes me that way. I mean I'd be really happy with him ina relationship. But I don't think he likes me that way. I don't even think he'd like to be my friend and I don't thinl he will wanna keep talking with me after the internship. And it finish in 2 weeks... the problem is that I'm very shy and I know he is shy too. I read a lot on Internet and I can say he shows signs that could mean he likes me but he also shows signs he doesn't. I don't know how to explain this... but I'm really attracted by this guy and we have a lot in common. I love his personality and we laugh a lot.

So if you have advice for me I'd be very happy ! That's the first time I feel that way for a guy (except my "friend") and after what happened to me all I wish is love and happiness. I don't wanna have my poor lil heart broken again. I know if he doesn't like me my heart will be broken... but I need advice to fight being shy, show him I like him or which signs mean he likes me too. Thank you !

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Non JW girl with a JW guy

by Accio in

i want to talk about my story because i need help and advice and most impirtant a lot of comfort.. one year and a half ago i met a wonderful guy.

he was really nice and supporyed me during hard moments.

i slowly fell in love with him.

Accio

Hello. I want to talk about my story because I need help and advice and most impirtant a lot of comfort.

One year and a half ago I met a wonderful guy. He was really nice and supporyed me during hard moments. I slowly fell in love with him. He has a so awesome personality. He was adorable with me while no one were really nice with me. We were talking everyday through messages. And then he confessed to me 5 months after we met that he is a JW. First I was shaken by this confession because here it's not considered as a good religion. He explained to me a lot of things and I fell even more in love with him. I'm not a JW tho.He slowly fell in love with me too while he wasn't supposed to. We were like a couple sharing everything about our lives no matter the distance, age difference,... He just wanted me to learn about JW, understand him better. That's what I did. But I wasn't telling him I was learning. So we had few arguments but it always ended well. Until last Octobrt. He said he couldn't wait longer to see my efforts and broke up. He didn't let me explain. I'm a student and he isn't. He doesn't understand school is hard. We kept talking. He told me he needed time to think and that we would try again to be together. You know he told me so beautiful things and we planned a lot of things together. I was extremly happy with him ! But few days after we broke up he started a relationship with another girl. I don't know anything about her. I think she's probably a JW too. It totally destroyed me. Just few days after a break up ! What a shame ! I know they hit hard times twice... but it seems he loves her now. So I started being depressed. Really deeply. Crying a lot, not eating and sleeping. We stopped talking for a while. Then we talked again. And I confessed him all the things I learned about JW and all the efforts I did. He felt sad knowing that just now and not earlier. We stopped talking again. I thought he was thinking about being with me again. But not at all. I thought after those cobfessions he would give me another chance to prove him we can be together even if we aren't from the same religion. Now we just spend our time arguing. I can't stop asking him to come back. He ruined my life. I already have other problems and school. But since he's gone I'm depressed and extremly exhausted. I lost a lot of weight. I have big migraines and sometimes I lost consciouness. I spend my time crying. I do everything I can to get better. But I know only him can save me. I know he wants to help me but being with me is a big no. I mean he said he doesn't want to break his friend heart (which I understand) but if it doesn't work with her he will be happy to be with me again. My biggest wish us to see him break up witv her. My friends all said he will come back but I'm starting losing hope. I feel like my life is meaningless to him. And my health and heart too.

What should I do ? What should I tell him ? There is still hope ?

I'm really worried for myself. It destroys me not being with him. I'm not that kind of girl on fact. It's the first time losing someone hurts me so much. I can't get over it. I tried a lot of things to save myself but it doesn't work. I have lot of respect for his faith and it doesn't seem he sees that. As well as he doesn't try to understand my pain. That's terrible he chose to break up with me just because of religion ! I mean we have same interests, see the world same way, like same things... He said I was different and special. The first he met someone like me... I'm really lost... I won't get better without him by my side.

Thanks for your help !