Do you have an Evil Streak?

by misspeaches 39 Replies latest jw friends

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  blondie

  Passive-aggressive

  I interpret that meaning that you are afraid to define your boundaries and someone is stepping past yours. So you deal with it behind the scenes.

  Sometimes that is good, when the person stepping over is physically dangerous.

  The best thing to do is find a quiet moment, lola, and talk to your sisters. I assume that they are not young children. They must respect your possessions, especially if you are paying out of your pocket and it is not the family shampoo bottle.

  It is matter of being afraid to confront the person, that the either will not like you or could be dangerous as misspeaches roommate's boyfriend sounds to me.

  A friend told me about a recurring dream she had:

  An alligator followed her around the house trying to bite her. She kept trying to get up on furniture, leave the room and shut the door, but the alligator always got past those barriers. Finally one night after weeks of sleepless nights, she decided to let the alligator bite her. Well, of course, she felt nothing and promptly woke up and never had the dream again.

  The point, when she confronted her fear, it was easier to deal with.

  Not quite up to Christ's standards but it meant something to me.

  Some situations we can't confront right then, too dangerous, but it can change.

  Other situations we can confront, but avoid and they get worse and worse.

  You have to decide what is safe.

  Love, Blondie (a recovering P-A personality)
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  misspeaches

  Awww come on Tetra tell us what you do that is evil....

  Chrissy I don't really know what comeuppance officially means. The best way I can describe it is when someone gets whats coming to them. Like karma.
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  misspeaches

  Just to clarify...

  The boyfriend is not a nice person. He is agressive. He intimidates my friend with physical force (not hitting her but grabbing her and shaking her.) He yells and screams at us when he doesn't like things. You can't reason with him. He takes illicit drugs and drinks too much and the problem escalates...
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  chrissy

  whaaa? yells and screams at peaches? no wonder you clean the toilet with his bath towel!! hehe. keep up the good work.
  
  maybe time to evict his arse, peaches.
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  Kaylen

  comeuppance means they get their "just deserts" a very approopriate coice of words for Miss Peaches
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  horrible life

  Mispeaches, I don't think the towel is a very big deal. I know that you get alot of satisfaction though. But since you are cleaning the sink, and only drying the sink with the towel, I don't see much harm in it.

  Now true harm, would occur if you cleaned certain items with his toothbrush. That would bad, very, very bad.

  I had a situation exactly like yours, while I was in college. The mean boyfriend, was not meant to be part of the living arrangement. With me footing the bill. I finally said I was moving out. Since they couldn't afford to stay themselves, they moved first. So I kept the place, and found a new roommate. Worked out great. The next roommate, I said "Your boyfriend, can stay over, the same amount of time that mine does." Mine lived 200 miles away, and came to visit overnight 1 time a month. LOL
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  misspeaches

  Yes I think he deserves anything that he gets... I get ascared when he yells at me. I am too ascared to evict him...

  Thanx Kaylen! I knew another Aussie would know what I mean!!!
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  misspeaches

  Hi HL!

  Hmmm yes cleaning certain items with his toothbrush would be very very bad. Cleaning the drains would constitute very very bad wouldn't it?

  You know I was thinking of doing something similar. Telling them I was moving out. I know that my landlord would ask them to leave because he is actually a friend of mine. Hence we have the place... And then BANG! they leave. I stay. hurrah!
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  fairchild

  When she cleans the bathroom sink and bathtub she always gives it a final polish with his bathtowel.

  LMAO, that is so precious.

  I think I'll try and stay on your good side.
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  dezpbem

  The boyfriend is not a nice person. He is agressive. He intimidates my friend with physical force (not hitting her but grabbing her and shaking her.) He yells and screams at us when he doesn't like things. You can't reason with him. He takes illicit drugs and drinks too much and the problem escalates...

  This sounds like a bad situation. Is the lease in your name? Does your roommate want to stay with him? Or get rid of him but is affraid?

  If she wants to get rid of him too then another option is to call the police, tell the situation to them and your landlord, and have them assist you in kicking him out. He won't do anything stupid with them there. If she doesn't want him to leave then I would get rid of both of them . The idea you have about saying your moving out may work. But it sounds like you need to do something. I'm concerned for your friend. Especially if she wants to stay with someone like that.

  As far as "Evil Miss Peaches" and the question on evil streaks goes...

  Everybody has a negative side. Most others would hesitate to call it an "evil streak" because of the negative connotation from the use of the word "evil". I think the way it was worded stops people from admitting their negative side. Everyone has them but they express themselves differently in different personality types.

  I'm curious, are you the type of person who is very giving and helpful to others? The type of person who may be described as a "giver"? Or maybe more of a "thinker"/"observer"?

  Dez