...and all I was getting married for was sex. (What else?!) (page 2)

Gill

And...I don't believe you either, Gumby!!!!

That must be pretty common. There was a girl in my cong. whose mother would do that sort of thing. She would take her daughter and her JW boyfriend places and "let" them sit in the backseat and makeout. The guy told me once that it was sort of creepy, since, you know, she'd watch the whole time.

mrsjones5

The guy told me once that it was sort of creepy, since, you know, she'd watch the whole time.

So he was watching her watching him makeout with her daughter....creepy *shutter*

riko

That IS pretty creepy...

I hold my hands up and admit that I married for that reason but then started 'fornicating' anyway so...

Married out of terror of my parents in the end, maybe that's why it ended up only lasting 11 months

coolhandluke

hold my hands up and admit that I married for that reason but then started 'fornicating' anyway so...

mmmm. fornicating.

JAVA

The Tower has done everything they can to take the fun out of dating, and going beyond that with strong suggestions of what married couples can and should not do in bed. I think many JWs get married so they can have sex, and sadly find out they don’t have much in common after the orgasm.

doofdaddy

Ditto CHL

I remember a jw mother I knew shagging her daughter's husband to be. She was "repentant" and reinstated, while the daughter had a breakdown and was disfellowshipped.

Ahh sweet jw justice

luna2

I've heard that about half of the young JW's who married in my first congregation are now divorced. Guess the sex wasn't that good.

delilah

Hey, Coolhand....you are describing my brother's ex-wife's mother to a "T"...She was sleazy.....used to set my brother up to take her daughter out, then "snatch" her back, and throw her at some other young stud in the congregation. She'd always have to know ALL the details of her daughter's dates, and would ask disgusting personal questions to fish it out of her, she was, and still is, a sick woman!!! Always playing mind games, she was....my brother was the "lucky" contestant who ended up with a pregnant wife on their wedding day, much to her mother's dismay....You are absolutely right...the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.....

atypical

I think many, many jws marry just for sex. Especially if they are ones who really followed all the rules and didn't have sex at all while they were single. At some point, usually around 20, they get so desperate to fill that need that they marry quickly. I have even heard elders comment that the organization has a built in flaw when it comes to this subject. The more chaste a person has been, the more likely they are to marry for the wrong reason because their natural sex drive is not being fulfilled. The only other options for jws are to 1. have sex anyway and try not to get caught 2. Learn to get off on power, use the sex drive to fuel ambition for status in the hall and then brag about how you are using your singleness for Jehovah(have know a few men who followed this model).

As far as women jws go, I have noticed that there is much pressure on them to be married by a certain age. It seems to me that a brother can be in his 30's and single and be viewed as quite a catch, but a single sister the same age gets treated like there is something wrong with her. I have noticed this in several congregations I have been in, and my wife has mentioned it too(she is an active jw).

...and all I was getting married for was sex. (What else?!)