Two weeks 'til DA day?

by AuldSoul 35 Replies latest jw friends

  • willyloman
    willyloman
    It raises the question in my mind: If this you have seen this gradual moving away before, when will something be done to prevent it? When will the one become more critically important than the ninety-nine?



    Don't hold your breath, dude! Nothing will ever be done to prevent it; the one is expendable.

    However, don't despair, we all care about you.

    Here's the best advice ever (from JT):

    "The best and only reason to fade is to give yourself time to develop new interests and a new circle of friends so that, when the inevitable other shoe drops, you won't give a rat's ass."

    (I cleaned it up some).

  • coolhandluke
    coolhandluke

    I care my man. No thoughts really. You know your struggle better than I do. If it matters to you what the congregation thinks maybe you could do what Kwin did and mail them copies of your DA letter. Not sure if this would help. Just a suggestion.

    Good vibes comin your way man

    Dominick

  • Darth Yhwh
    Darth Yhwh

    I too am confused regarding the two week time line. I have enjoyed reading your posts and opinions. In any case, I feel as other here do, that you are welcome and among friends on this forum.

  • wannaexit
    wannaexit
    If you have been following anything about my situation (likely not),

    Yes I have been following.

    Keep us posted.

    regards

    wanna

  • dedpoet
    dedpoet

    Hi AS, I feel for you. I too thought long and hard before leaving, it's a big decision. I hope everything goes well for you.

    take care

    dedpoet

  • misspeaches
    misspeaches

    AuldSoul so many of us can relate with your inner battle.

    I wish you all the best in the next 2 weeks. I hope that the end outcome is worth it.

    And yes I have been following your posts. I think you are a valuable member of this board.

  • AuldSoul
    AuldSoul

    Thank you all so much!

    I apologize for inferring that few would care. I didn't even consider the possibility of taking it that way until so many posted affirmations that they care.

    Es, thank you.

    FF, thanks for the caution and I'm drafting the letter to friends now. The final version to the mail recipients will be ready by Friday and the article for the local paper will be ready by Sunday. I don't know how long it will take to convince the local paper to print it, but they are usually looking for content for the "Religion" section.

    AK-Jeff, basically I will be DF'd for apostasy eventually if I allow myself to be myself. Not because my personal reputation is such that many might be "spiritually harmed," but due to the reputation of my immediate and extended family. I know for sure that if I stop guarding my tongue I will be DF'd. So, I am choosing DA so I can include that in the article for the local paper.

    blondie, grape minds think a lot . Thanks.

    Narkissos, yes it is a deadline of a sort. I am allowing an opportunity for one more possibility to be closed permanently and irreversibly first. It is because of wanting to preserve my reputation that I will choose DA and report my DA status.

    Cordelia, I am so glad to have been helpful to you. Standing by what I think is right is what the choice to DA is all about.

    onesong, that is exactly what I want to avoid. Thanks for sharing that with me, it strengthens my confidence this is the best course for me to take.

    TopHat, yes. That is why he was killed and that is also why anyone who confessed him as Christ was expelled from the Synagogues. He was considered an apostate by the Jews and anyone who followed him was also accused of apostasy.

    willyloman, thanks for the confirmation. Fortunately, I didn't hold my breath. I would have been doing so since February and I don't think my lungs have that kind of capacity. I have been making friends and reestablishing some old acquaintances. Great advice. It will be impossible not to miss my family, but fortunately I am close with my wife's kin (non-wtnesses).

    CHL, thanks for the encouragement.

    Darth Yhwh, thanks for the welcome. Hopefully the remarks to Narkissos cleared up the "two weeks" thing. I just have to get final relief and breathe some fresh air.

    wannaexit, count on it.

    Again, thank you all for your words of support and encouragement. It has been said before, this forum is like a triage unit for wounded JWs. Thanks for binding me up nicely. I think I'll mend just fine.

    Warmly,
    AuldSoul

  • startingover
    startingover

    Didn't all the posts real carefully, but it seems you have alot of JW family. If so, I recommend DAing yourself mentally and fading. It may or may not work but I think it's better if you can avoid having the label.

  • jgnat
    jgnat

    Startingover, if I remember right, AuldSoul is being pushed in to this action. The elders are on to him and they are out for blood. As usual, they are not allowing for a dignified exit.

  • telltruth
    telltruth

    AuldSoul.. good luck with your situation. i thought that finally-free made a very good suggestion... writing a letter to all of your friends at the kh expressing your own version of the events prior to having it be announced for you.(and misrepresenting you as well)......telltruth.

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