Two weeks 'til DA day?

by AuldSoul 35 Replies latest jw friends

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  AuldSoul

  My dad's the P.O., so it is pretty much a done deal if I'm found out.

  misspeaches, startingover, jgnat, and telltruth: Thanks for the advice and good wishes/positive thoughts.

  For what its worth, startingover, I have tried. But there is constant sad-facing going on along with appointments to do things that turn into "let's encourage AuldSoul in such a way he won't notice that's what we're doing" fests. I can't take the willingness to dispense with reason in favor of emotion anymore. I would have to disfellowship my family to avoid frequent immersion in that, so I may as well DA myself.

  AuldSoul
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  Seeker4

  AS,

  Have been in your shoes, and not so long ago. It's a hard path at times, but I'm so glad I took it. You will be also.

  Whatever you choose, know that I'm thinking of you and wishing you the best.

  S4
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  startingover

  In my experience, if your father is the PO, you may stand a better chance of being left alone, depending on him of course. I have seen other elders leave PO's kids alone because they leave it up to him to take care of his kids. Seems like you have been upfront about what is bothering you. Just be careful who you talk to and if they do come after you, it seems like you have something really bothering you they won't resolve. Bottom line, you've been stumbled. Try to play that card.

  In my situation, I think they have left me alone because I stopped associated with them. Even though I get invited to JW things sometimes because of my wife, I am careful to avoid them. Bad association spoils useful habits you know.
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  bebu

  AS, sorry to hear of your situation.

  Thanks very much for keeping us in your circle of info. That is nice of you to do that.

  I hope that the situation turns out better than you expect. I salute you for your integrity!!

  ((AS))

  bebu
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  defd

  Hate to hear you are going through that. I really do. My only words of advise would be to Perservere, Endure.... in due time you shall reap.

  Sincerly

  D.
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  jwfacts

  I really feel for you and wish you strength through all of this.
  I don't know all your circumstances but feel you should fade if at all possible for as long as possible. Two reasons, either for family, or to help others see the truth.
  I have totally stopped going to meetings for 6 months without getting d/f yet. It has meant that I have been able to subtly talk to many friends in that time and quite a few have stopped going to the meetings as a result. I am very careful to only talk to those that approach me with questions, are really searching and are very insistent on knowing what I now know.
  If you do get d/f or d/a I think writing a brief letter to everyone could be important for your own reputation. Just as you wrote here, you have committed no sin, but become aware of the UN issue, false prophecies, or whatever else has been important to you.
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  vitty

  What a hard and long road we are on !

  I sometimes think Im living in a twilight zone, its so big, something you never consider when your in the org and ingnorant

  The repercussions last a life time, shunning and loss of reputation.

  Ill be thinking of you and keep us up to date

  ((((((( hugs )))))))
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  LittleToe

  I know the feeling only too well.

  The cost is high (higher than many can afford), but there's closure and reduced follow-up. It's hard to escape unnoticed, when you're prominant in the JWs.

  Don't downplay the feelings of grief that will be a likely consequence. When I DA'ed I couldn't write about it properly for a month!
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  TheListener

  We all care AuldSoul. You know that. You've shown much care for us as well.

  I wouldn't be where I am today without your help. When you're a witness there aren't many people or places you can turn to when you need to vent or express yourself. You were that place for me.

  Perhaps you could talk to your wife and let her assist you with what course to take. See if she feels if you've done anything that is a disfellowshipping offense. She may surprise you. What you don't want is for her to think you're angry and da'ing due to that anger. You want her to know that you're kind, thoughtful and trying to be reasonable about everything. With a spouse on your side you can't lose.

  Good luck.
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  AuldSoul

  Well, won't be long now...just a few days left before I print up and mail out what will be my swan song.

  I shall hand deliver (during a meeting? ) my letter of Disassociation at an appropriate time.

  I will be lobbying news sources to interview me/print an article I have typed up.

  Hm...you would think they would rather be forthcoming than create enemies out of people like me. I guess Jehovah did choose the foolish things...

  AuldSoul