You are the only one who has to decide here.
I would ask myself: if this man was a catholic, muslim or whatever religion (not yours) should you go? if the answer is yes, then why should you give the JW power re YOUR decision ?
My Friend's JW Brother Died-------- To Go To KH Funeral Or Not???
by minimus 29 Replies latest jw friends
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johnny cip
if they are having a showing at a funeral home. i would go to that , and stay as long as you feel comfortable. all the jw's i know always go to the funeral home to pay respect for the dead. but will not go to the church ie catholic, baptist etc. for the service. the jw's will wait out side the church, then follow the everyone to the cematary for the burial. and if a priest says some words at the plot. the dub's will walk away again. . i would treat the jw's , the same way they would treat me if i died. john
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TopHat
Thank You mouthy....At first I thought about not posting her death on the board but reading this message just made me want to say something in her behave. She had no chance to live past six months, the Doctor told her. She died after 7 months. The last week was the worst for her. My son is taking it very hard. I will go out there to visit him in March when my husband can stay home with our dog.
The dog is doing find and you wouldn't know he was blind. He can go anywhere in the house except up or downstairs and he avoids the stairs now because he fell down them once just after he bacame blind a year ago. When he has to go out in the yard he lets us know and we pick him up. He sniffs the bushes and wanders all over for about 30 minutes then barks to come back inside. I am amazed!
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juni
Hi Min,
You've got excellent advice about your options. Personally I lean toward what Gary, Blondie, and Lady Lee said because I feel that if the elders take this occassion to talk w/you it pulls you away both physically and emotionally from your friend and the support you want to give him at this time. But if your friend truly wants you there then by all means I would go for him and if approached by elders tell them this is not the time or place for a meeting w/them. Blondie has some very good suggestions. Juni
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juni
Dearest TopHat,
I'm sorry to hear of your recent loss of your daughter-in-law. I remember years back when I couldn't attend our only daughter's wedding in FL as our old doggie was extremely sick. Everyone understood that someone had to stay home to care for our pet's needs.
I hope that your memories of good times with your daughter-in-law will bring you comfort.
Love, Juni
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TopHat
juni, Yes our pets become a part of us and they are almost like a our own child.
I have many wonderful memories of my daughter-in-law and I do hope to see her again in the resurrection. Thank you for your thoughts
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biddie
Minimus- Boy! Going would be tough for you. I understand the difficulty. If you feel in your heart that you should go , then BE STRONG and go! If not, then do not FEEL GUILTY for not going! Many here have good suggestions, and i think you could go somewhere with your friend.
You never know- If you go you might be a great influence on others! biddie
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dedpoet
Hi min,
I suppose it depends on your standing in the cong, are you df'd, da'd or just fading? If you are a fader, then it is quite possible that one or two elders will take the opportunity to corner you, though I personally think that it would be most disrespectful of them to do so at such an event. If you do go, then you need to be prepared for this. I would favour meeting with your friend away from the kh, if it were me. I certainly don't envy you your predicament, but whatever you do, I wish you well.
Take care
dedpoet
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lonelysheep
Go and be there for your friend.
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Honesty
There are certain people -----including my JW family, that will be there and I hear a couple of elders that may want to corner me.
Go for your friend. If you get cornered give them the 'standard' elder answer to a tough question, "I'll get back to you". If they insist and want to know when just say, "I said that I will get back to you".