I saw a householder presentation once where a faithful JW patiently explained to her sister-in-law why they no longer attended family events. The householder, predictably, meekly took the JW's explanation and bible verses with new sympathy.
leftbehind, I suggest you take the role of the householder here, and patiently hear out our own stories. I have reasons for not wanting to join the society, but I am no family-breaker.