What's the key to regular sex in a long-term relationship? (page 2)

Finally-Free

What's the key to regular sex in a long-term relationship?

The ability to prevent your wife from finding out about your mistresses.

W

Check_Your_Premises

Enter into a long term relationship with someone you really like having sex with.

I always say in regards to my wife, "at least the org isn't sleeping with my wife".

Of course they dictate what is allowed....

One, actually liking the person. I've had great sex with men that I didn't particularly like. It was great, but not for long. I truly enjoy my husband's friendship. He is funny, intelligent, kind, and doting. When all the clothes are on and we're sitting in the cold house in front of the tele, it's so wonderful to just BE. If you can enjoy those quiet moments with the person, the great sex just comes a lot easier.

Two, making it a priority. Sometimes Life can just get too busy. Work, classes, cleaning the home, training the dog, caring for children. If you aren't careful, sex goes by the wayside because you're too tired to do anything. But scheduling time away from everything is really the only way you'll focus on it to do it. It may sound unromantic to schedule sex, but it doesn't have to be just sex. Start off with a quiet dinner away from the kids or the house and turn off the tele. Cuddle and talk, share your day, while you're wearing jammies or nothing at all. You made it a priority when you were first together, why not do it again?

Andi - of the happily married and loved class

M.J.

Don't have kids.

Wasanelder Once

Good batteries.

W.Once

z

Do it once a year so you will not remember how bad the last one was

mrsjones5

A bedroom door with a lock (if you have kids)

Oroborus21

That's easy. Just have several long-term relationships.

-Eduardo

AuldSoul

Andi: Start off with a quiet dinner away from the kids or the house and turn off the tele. Cuddle and talk, share your day, while you're wearing jammies or nothing at all. You made it a priority when you were first together, why not do it again?

[applause]

So many people wine and dine to GET married (or sex). Once you are in a long term relationship you have a sort of trust and investment to "protect." If the other person doesn't feel important to you, you are not going to keep them. They will find someone to make them feel important.

Date your mate. Go ahead and feel silly. Play together. Share your lives with each other. Make each other feel more important than everyone—and everything—else. Let yourself feel unashamedly tingly when you caress her hand.

Sex will take care of itself. It is only part of a relationship, but regular good sex happens as a result of a good relationship, not as a result of an obligation. Television is a big inhibitor to a good relationship, if allowed to get out of control.

Respectfully,
AuldSoul