My stepfather died tonight (page 2)

Wounded Heart

im so sorry to hear this Marylin. im glad you were blessed with him in your life.

just a thought: if the memorial time was placed in the newspaper and your mom's address then perhaps you could stay at her house during the memorial. often times theives like to take advantage of this time and try to break in and clean the house out. my mother often offered to stay at people's houses to ward off theives during funerals.

also: if hearing the memorial is something you would like to do, perhaps you can either phone in and listen or have someone get a tape of it. i was still regular at meetings when mom died. we had someone tape the memorial for our benefit. not for what the WTS offers in comfort/scriptually but for how kindly she was spoken of.

just some thoughts. please know you and your family are in my thoughts. may you find peace and comfort in the fond memories you have of your stepdad.

Kat

Wounded Heart

Love by giving to & accepting others unconditionally = true, pure love

Maximus

My path crossed Henry's many years ago, and although our meeting was brief the memory has lasted--his zone oversight was, I believe, over several branches. Yes, there have been good guys in the organization who just remained untinged by hierarchical ugliness.

Your wisdom is showing in describing your very personal decision not to attend the memorial. I experienced the death of a beloved aunt and sat in the front row of the KH. The speaker mispronounced her name, gave her rank and serial number and proceeded to witness to--me. How my aunt would have wanted me back at meetings, the need to humble myself under the mighty hand of Jah, blah, blah, blah. I felt my aunt was completely trivialized and I vowed never again to attend such a farce. Maybe this will help those who may not at first understand ...

At another recent death, family members gathered lakeside, shared stories of the past, cried, laughed, held each other. We skipped the KH memorial. What a far richer experience that honored our loved one.

Take time to grieve and to savor the rich memories that no one can rob.

Warmest,
Max

Nathan Natas

My condolences Marilyn. As others have already said, it sounds as if he was one of the truly good ones.

As most of us here have learned, there are truly good ones everywhere: the Watchtower doesn't hold a patent on human kindness.

Kent

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, Marilyn.

Unfortunately, death is a part of life, and I hope you, your children and the rest of the family remembers him for the good things.

My condolences.

Love from

Kent

thinkers wife

Marilyn,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
I think it is important to recognize that just as in any organization, there are good and bad one's. It is sad to hear that the Witnesses have lost one more good one.
TW

Dino

Good Morning Mulan, We really are a small community here, but let me say thank you for sharing with us your loss,and how you felt about him. My wife and I extend to you our deepest love and condolences. Please continue to share with us your thoughts on how you and your daughter are faring. It will help. Once again, much brotherly love and hugs,Dino

Mulan

Thank you everyone for all of your nice comments, and especially Maximus for understandin our not going to his Memorial.

Dave and I have talked about going to his Memorial, all summer, as we knew he had only weeks to live. We decided it would be harder on Mom for us to be there, because we are so well known in this area. We feel many would possibly walk out because we were there. That would hurt her terribly. Those who stayed would be whispering about us, and not comforting her, or they would ask her about us, and she would cry even more. She is 89 and frail. I don't want that for her. We will go by her home in the next few days to help her, and will no doubt run into many of the dubs, but I can handle that. They will be the intruders in that situation, if they make a problem. And we can tell them to leave or butt out, or whatever we want to. I have a niece (38) who is not a witness, who will be right with her........one of the granddaughters, and take care of her. I think some of my kids will go too. They won't be the distraction that we would be.

When I explained to Mom, she said we were absolutely right, and she understood.

betweenworlds

{{{hugs}}} Sorry that you have lost someone that you cared about Mulan. He sounds like he was a wonderful person who will be missed.

BW

"The important thing is to not stop questioning" Albert Einstein

think41self

Mulan, Sorry for your loss Sweetie,

He sounds like a wonderful man, and thank you for sharing your thoughts on attending his memorial service. I have wondered how I would feel about it in a similar situation, and it always helps to hear others thoughts.

I hope you find comfort and strength from your friends.

Tracy

patio34

Hi Mulan,

(((((Mulan)))))
Very sorry for your loss--my deepest sympathies.

While it is small comfort, it always seemed like such a good thing to be able to say: "And gradually Job died, old and satisfied with days." (Job 42:17).

It sounds like your step-father had such a good life and enjoyed his family so much.

All the best,
Pat

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