Seriously, though, what authority do elders have?
I want to address this point in specific, as I believe that this will be part of the test in the courts against elders.
You ask what authority they have? Do you really believe that they do not have authority over peoples lives? Let me tell you something...
For 15 years a drunken ‘brother in good standing’ abused me. I wanted to leave and was advised by the elders not to. They threatened my standing in the congregation, my ties to family, and my relationship with my God if I left. I believed that they knew what they were talking about because of their positions. When I woke up in the hospital the last time, and my doctor told me that I was going to have to pick another doctor because I just would not extricate myself from the position I was in, that is when I left.
The authority may be a sham to most thinking people, but not to a fully indoctrinated witness like I was. Would you like to see the scars??
Believe me, whether or not you wish to believe that they have 'authority', they do. It was not the society telling me to stay with my ex, it was their representative, the elders. They are who the r&f deal with on a daily basis. They are the 'axe men' for society policy. And for their part, they are responsible for their actions, advice, and selective honesty.
Please don't try to tell me that the elders are forthcoming with their own personal beliefs and information either. I was an elders daughter and remember 'listening' in on my fathers telephone conversations with other elders and the CO's as to what was really going on in Brooklyn and in the CO meetings. This used to confuse me greatly when he would sit silently as the visiting CO would stand up at the service meeting and give a talk that was completely the opposite of what I had heard him talking about. I know for a fact that he would not tell my mother any of this and had he known I was 'listening' I'd have gotten it at the buckle end of his belt. (prolly would have deserved it too... sneaky little dickens)
Look, this is not about your husband or any other elder who had the good conscience to steer clear of situations that would make them responsible for harming someone. But for those who have acted on judicial committees which have stripped people of their families, harmed them psychologically, resulted in forcing them to choose between their safety and their ties to the congregation, or even resulted in the death of someone due to the blood doctrine...
Sorry, buddy but your ass is grass. You may be 'a true believer' but you still should pay for what you have done.
A criminal does not get out of paying for his crime by 'finding Jesus', 'repenting', or 'acting according to faith'. He still does his time.
I can't say it enough: if you give advice in an acknowledged position of authority, you are responsible for the consequences. Religious bodies have been shielded from this consequence for far too long, at a tremendous human cost. It is time that the religious legal loophole is closed for good.
Jean