In love with a JW, HELP!!! (page 2)

secretlove

THANK YOU, I'm just taking in everyones opinions. Keep em' comin' .

They are very helpful.

Think

Secretlove,

Welcome on the Forum

We know your pain, we have our lives filled with this kind of problems.

First, Read this very carefuly: a JW husbund is ALREADY MARRIED TO THE BORG. So, as JW he have so many obligations, that you will be treated as "second wife ", and you may not have time to have sex or any intimacy with your loved one for months or years. This happened in so many JW marriages, that I was shocked, when I learned the truth.

The Borg come FIRST before YOU as a WIFE. From painfull experiences from milions of people in JW Borg, there is not much time for loving relationship between man and woman. Most of the time, if not all, is sacrificed to slaving for the Borg. That is why much more marriages separate and divorce very quickly in the Borg, this is the sad facts so shamefuly hidden because of Code of Silence.

I know your feeling, I know what Love is.

I lost a loved one because of the Borg.

Before you commit your life to the martyrdom of the Cult, learn everything about the cult, because you have no idea how sick the entire Lunacysociety is.

Learn about cults in the RickRoss Institute, FreeMinds.com, Mind Controling, and so on. JW religion is just a "IMAGE of Holiness" and is so far away from the truth, as The West is from The East.

Ask other people about JW, Search the truth for yourself, don't take informations only from one source.

If you believe in God, Pray to him for guidance, for the truth, because not only your own life is at stake, but also your soul and your children lives and souls.

Friend

serendipity

Secret love, please check out this link. It has many others' experiences:

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/32/77159/1.ashx

lola28

You say you have been in love with this man for half of your life, during this time how much have time have you actually spent with him? From your post it sounds like it wasn't much. You say you are married but are not happy, my best advice would be to stay away from this guy, because it sounds to me like you might end up getting too close to him. Thats a bad idea because you are both married, you say you are not the type of person that would cheat but from what you have written it sounds like you would leave your husband for this other person. Do you really love this guy or is it a case of wanting what you can't have?

I hope you figure it out and I wish you the best.

lola

cyd0099

Every time I would ask him what he was thinking he said, " I can't say or it might get me in trouble."

I say run. If you are unhappy in your marriage then move on if you need to and find someone who can be open and honest and share their heart fully with you.

wanderlustguy

Run run run run run run run run

and then...

run run run run run run run run run

Seriously, the first post was right, you have NO IDEA what you will be getting into...could you let your kids die because of lack of proper medical treatment? That's just one example.

jgnat

Wow. A fourteen year infatuation. There is no way this is love, this man is more a fabrication in your own mind than reality. I wonder if he would look so lovely six months in to an affair? Consider he might be your excuse to escape an unhappy life. To get an inside look at how effective this approach is, read some of Cordelia's threads. She attacks the problem from the other end, but you will probably get the drift.

Guys I really need your help. http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/100361/1.ashx Oct 20

OK I think I finally made a decision. http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/101968/1.ashx Nov 16

Why can't they see how cruel they are? http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/103131/1.ashx Dec 10

Well I finally did it! http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/103536/1.ashx Dec 13

I think I am gonna have to get reinstated and let them win. http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/9/106377/1.ashx January 24

Now, the very best this could work out is as follows:

1. It turns out he yearned after you as deeply as you did him, all these years.
2. He commits adultery, is immediately repentant, confesses, and is kicked out of the Watchtower Society. His wife divorces him and blocks acess to the children.
3. He cuts off all contact from you for six months, completes a new round of bible study, and doesn't skip a single meeting. No-one from teh congregation will talk to him or even meet him in the eye. He goes to the meetings right as it starts, sits at the back, addresses nobody, and leaves quickly afterwards. He gets reinstated after another meeting with the elders where he shows sincere repentance.
4. He immediately switches congregations and starts dating you on the sly.
5. He marries you, confesses to the elders, and is put on restrictions. Another six months, at least, of extra study.
6. The congregation will not invite you both to social gatherings. Not because of the adultery, but because you are "unequally yoked". You, my dear, are considered an "unbeliever."

Now, you could join this crazy cult if you want, but that would not fit in to the "ideal" scenario I've outlined above. There are not very many happy Jehovah's Witness women. I would not wish this religion on my worst enemy.

NOW, if you are really THAT UNHAPPY, I suggest you break out on your own. Being a single parent is not the end of the world. You might find you enjoy the independence.

sass_my_frass

Wow, he's really using you. What an unkind thing to do.

Honey you have no idea what a bag of trouble this guy would bring to your life. Love hurts, but you need to let it go.

Robdar

You can't figure the answers out yourself? How old are you?

PaNiCAtTaCk

First, Do whats best for your children. Do your children love there Father? Is he a good dad to them?
Will it hurt them deeply if Mom chooses a 14 year old infatuation over there happiness? Trust me they WILL NOT understand!

If this man is eating breakfast with you, someone elses wife, then he is already a Spiritually weak JEhovahs Witness. If your children love there father then I suggest you Stay away from this long time crush. Dont talk to him and dont look his direction. Are you really unhappily married or are you convincing yourself that you are to follow a crush? ONly you know the answers to these questions. Dont let this man cloud your better judgement. If somehow you guys ended up together he would have NO PROBLEM letting YOUR kids die of refusing a blood transfusion! Being a JEhovahs Witness is a way of life and its the only life he knows. Even if you seduce him and you guys have sex, as soon as your finished he will be overwhelmed with guilt and probably run to his dad or the Elders of his congregation and repent. They will tell him to STAY AWAY FROM YOU! Please, I know your hurting but there is so much more to this guy than you could ever imagine.

In love with a JW, HELP!!!

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