by BlackSwan of Memphis 30 Replies latest jw experiences
Hi Meagan
Sorry to hear about the way you are being treated. In time, your JW family may come around and lighten up a bit. Or, they may not.
In either case realize that you still do have family but that it is a different kind.
In any case, you can give me a call whenever you wish.
Here is my contact information:
http://www.catholicxjw.com/contactus.html
Jeff S.
Proph: Thnx for the flowers brighten a day don't they?
MrsMcD: Well, instead of punching a pillow I took the kids for a walk to the park. I needed to get that energy out and pulling a wagon with two toddlers seems to have helped.
Hey Jeff: Thank you. I hope that they come around, but there is this stubborn streak that runs in my family... haha, we'll see. I thought about you and the Journey Home video the other day. What you had said about your aunt (I believe) there is always hope.
Think I'll just keep saying to myself
I do exist, I do exist, I do exist...
I have you guys to prove it!!
BSoM
Hey, Megan, we are just friends on the internet, but we love you! I just feel sorry for the old (former) friends, because they are trapped souls, but WE know better and are free!
Walks really do help. I was depressed after my surgery and the afternoon stroll with nature lifted my spirits. Just think how bright the future is for your babies, all the potential and possibilities they will have, as you bring out their talents and encourage them to develope to their fullest!
You have lots of wonderful living ahead too, and many true friends yet to meet!
Hope you get to feeling better!
Megan, my heart goes out to you. If you feel like reading something, when I finally made the decision to stop being a JW, I bought a book that helped me out a lot in so many ways. It is called Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. It is an interesting look at when people do not get their emotional needs met and what they can do to heal.
One of the things that stood out to me the most and that I try to put in place when dealing with people who are very harsh (like JWs). Hostility puts people at risk. If negative thoughts persist, try to short circuit them by saying encouraging words in order to substitute cynical mistrustful ones. For frustrating encournters, try to learn the ability to see things from the other person's perspective - empathy is a balm for anger.
It is much easier said then done. But if you have the ability to feel sorry for JWs and the fact that they live half a life, then you may be able to deal with the harshness that is dealt out by JWs.
I hope that your worries with respect to people and how they may or may not let you know about a loved one's death, does not come true. I hope for everyone's sake it does not come true.
I wish you much happiness in your journey to come.
Hi virgochik, you know, something I’ve learned since getting online is that yeah, maybe you guys are online and I’ve never met most of you otherwise, but in so many ways, you have all been there for me when I have felt my most down and sad.
Walks are really helpful. Luckily the winter has been a mild one, so spring is in full bloom. Thanks for the encouraging words.
You (as well as so many others are right) they are trapped. My children have a future ahead of them that is not filled with promises that cannot be kept. And there are many kids in the fam.
LookingGlass: Well, I love to read. Thank you for the suggestion! You are right about seeing things from the other persons perspective. It is tough to do. But once I get myself past this little bump, it’ll be easier to do that.
Thinking of encouraging words, saying them, is harder for me to do. I guess because I get So down, I start secondguessing things. My decisions.
I hope you are right that these things don’t happen the way I think they would. But, I can’t help but think that that is what I am up against.
Time will tell.
In the meantime, I think I need to start moving on.
BSoM
(((((BLACK SWAN)))))
Sweetheart. I've been there, and still get there sometimes. The important thing now is to thank God you're out of it and pray that He will be your friend and bring other wonderful people in your life that you deserve and that deserve someone as wonderful as you. I have had the exact thing happen to me. Several people from our old hall died and my father (who told me to kill myself when I left) didn't tell me. I'd find out from my exhusband...or the newspaper. I'm so glad I'm out and that I don't act that way anymore. I'm sorry you're in tears. I wish I were there to give you a big hug. You will be ok. We all will be. Stay strong.
Love...for real.
((((( Meagan))))) Im sorry about your friend.
The Claw
Can you, for a while, cut them off? Stop giving them opportunities to shun you and do something kind for yourself for a time?
((((eagle)))) thank you for the hugs. Woke up this morning and it was pretty fresh again and the hugs are a nice welcome.
Synergy: It just astounds me that we are such evil people we don’t even deserve the most basic courtesy. (((((hugs))))) I am so sorry that you had to go through so much. I agree in so many ways. I had last night to think about what everyone has said and yeah, I am glad I am out. And as you said I am glad, I am happy and I am free to not treat people that way any more.
IronClaw: Thx babe. Hey, if you can stay strong and get through what you’re going through, I can get through this.
Sass: You have a good point. The obit wasn’t something I could really control. I think that’s what was so wacky. But yeah, I set myself up with my friend. The thing is, it seems like every which way I turn I am running into people. In our area for example:
There are 2-3 congregations to the kingdom hall. I have family all over and have been to several congs in my life. So there are people everywhere. Just taking my kids for a walk I chance running into people.
I think I better toughen up, because it certainly ain’t gonna get better.
Love (for real)(I like that)
BSoM
