WE had already been fading a year before we officially disassociated ourselves..and we had made some great "worldly" friends so..we really had no problems moving on.. My family were not JWS.. except for my mom .. but she died 3 years before we left.. It would have been very difficult to leave if she was still alive as she was very staunch JW... We left because we didn't want to raise our kids in JW org.. it wasn't until later when I found this site.. I also realized how twisted the society is in its teachings..
How long did it take you to get over it?
by AK - Jeff 24 Replies latest jw friends
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trevor
Many of you have expressed the, grieving depression and anger process that we as humans go through when we suffer and emotional loss of this magnitude. It does take a few years to ‘get over’ that.
I don’t thing that we ever ‘get over’ the experience. We will always be different for it, which is the benefit that comes from our experiences in life. If we look back at all the challenges we have faced and overcome on life’s road we can realize that it is those struggles that have made us the complete and mature people that we are.
Perhaps we adjust to our altered lives and eventually ‘go beyond’ the whole thing. It is then that we can look back and see how far we have come and how much we have grow.
You are all courageous people. Never underestimate your achievement.
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fullofdoubtnow
I am not over it yet, but I am glad to be out. I do, however, still feel guilty about some things. For example, last week I celebrated my birthday for the first time in many years. Dedpoet took me out for a lovely meal and bought me some lovely presents, and I sort of enjoyed the day, but felt guilty almost every minute of it. I suppose that's all the years of believing birthday celebrations were wrong hitting me.
I feel guilty about living with dedpoet sometimes, although we are very happy together, guilty about having a normal social life nowadays, and even a little guilty about working full time now and trying to further my career. Yet I don't feel guilty about leaving, I know that was the right thing to do. I don't know how long these feelings will last, but I do know that I will never feel guilty enough to go back.
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inquirer
LittleToe,
A couple of months. However there are occasions when it breaks back into my life through my family. Unfortunately it always will. Meanwhile I attempt to just shrug it off and get on with the business of living!
Yay! That's the way to do it! :) I think it's normal that you think about it from time to time. Because it's apart of your history. People will always think bad things like 9/11. :( PARTICULARY IF YOU LIVE IN NY!!!! -
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These days I am more concerned of how to survive in this very competitive global economy.