by daystar 36 Replies latest social relationships
Seems like you may be confusing great chemistry with something more. That's dangerous. It's very important for partners to respect each other. Will the fact that she 'cheated' on her fiancee be something that causes you to lose respect for her? Is cheating a dealbreaker for you?
No need to answer, but something to think about.
Seems like you may be confusing great chemistry with something more
Hmm, possible. But I must have great chemistry with one I'm with. And for me, it's rare to find. So I am willing to risk a bit more for that.
Will the fact that she 'cheated' on her fiancee be something that causes you to lose respect for her? Is cheating a dealbreaker for you?
For me, this is a grey area. If she were in a relationship with this guy full on, it would be a dealbreaker for me. But I understand the "on-the-way-out" relationships, especially with a single mother needing security. She spent ten years in a marriage, three to three and a half on her own and then the rest, half a year to a year, with this guy.
It seems to me that she is on her way out anyway and we just happened to have met during this period.
*Shrug* I'll just have to wait and see what happens. Thanks for the input.
I say go for it Daystar. You're obviously aware of the risks as you wouldn't have posted your reservations in the first place. But if those feelings you have are as rare as you say they are, you'd be a fool, to go through life frightened by them.
You could always take her to the KH for one of the "Happiness in Marriage" talks and see how she responds.
Rub a Dub
I say go for it Daystar. You're obviously aware of the risks as you wouldn't have posted your reservations in the first place. But if those feelings you have are as rare as you say they are, you'd be a fool, to go through life frightened by them.
Concise! That's rather my take on it as well. If she didn't rock me as much as she does, I'd probably not bother. But I'm still treading carefully.
I will only say that I hope she figures out what she wants, dumps the Morman, who she's not sleeping with, fiance and becomes more available. Good luck!
RubaDub
You could always take her to the KH for one of the "Happiness in Marriage" talks and see how she responds.
LOL! Did you miss the part where I said I liked her?
But the next day, things rather went back to the way things had been. We just keep missing each other, it seems. She asks me to call. I do, but she doesn't answer. She returns the call with a text message asking me to call her later. I do, but no answer. She calls me around lunchtime yesterday and we do talk for a couple of minutes, but she was picking up her son from school and so had to let me go. She says she'll call me later. She never does.
Sorry, but sounds like she's married to me. She definitely doesn't want her male housemate to know she's getting calls from other men.
There are plenty of fish in the sea, or as I like to say, a lid for every pot, my friend. Look elsewhere, and you will find someone to make you think "who?" when you hear this lady's name.
good luck!
essie
Mmmm.
Clearly you haven't ignored her enough to make her feel insecure enough to seek your interest. :D
well i can see your situation from both sides daystar...many a wonderful love affair have been spawn of such situations or even much more complex...so agree that you shouldn't be too hasty to write off such a potentially happifying situation, especially since you're such a fusspot;) hehe (me too)
on the other hand bro, from what you have said i think that it is entirely possible that she may be hiding some of the truth from you...painting her picture how she wants it to be, rather than perhaps how it actually is?
while i'd hate to see you get hurt, i'd have to say that sometimes it pays to live a little. you sound like a really sensible guy Daystar and i give you full credit for knowing when the right time to "cut and run", as you put it, might be, if that time should ever come...
i'm sure that under normal conditions this lovely young lady wouldn't be the type to withold aspects of the truth and mislead you, but her situation is hardly "normal" by any standards, so no doubt there's a chance that her normal reactions and behaviours might be a bit stretched given the situation.
i guess you're hardly in any position to place any real demands on her at this point in time, but perhaps it would pay to really put her on the spot and tell her that as a friend even you really need to be upfront and honest with her, if you're going to be of any real support to her.
so my advice it just to take it slowly, but make sure you know what you're getting yourself into at every step of the way. and don't compromise your commonsense if you happen to lead down an undesirable path that you didn't plan to be in, in the first place...if that makes any sense??
all the best daystar...i'm really happy for you that your feelings and emotions are being stirred up again, i think it would be a shame and a waste if you were to right that off out of fear of the unknown at this stage...
much luv frog x
