by BlackSwan of Memphis 23 Replies latest watchtower child-abuse
What an awful thing to happen to you as a little girl Black Swan. My heart goes out to you and no I do not for a moment think you are attention seeking or drama-creating. You haven't appealed for sympathy - you've simply explained your reaction to the subject of child abuse as being fierce and strong because of your experience and we appreciate that.
crumpet x
I can only say, what a brave post BSoM. I hope that you feel a sense of relief by sharing, and know you have whatever support we can offer.
Giving vent to such negative experiences and their associated feelings is the best way to eventually get rid of them to lance the boil as it were. So it was brave and useful what you did to bring up those destructive feelings so that they can be erased.
(((Megan)))
It takes strength to survive. It takes courage to recover.
There was a time when people would say that by accepting the ride you were asking for it. I suspect the WTS would be on this side of the "blame the victim" thinking.
Children know when it is not safe to tell about the assault. They often don't tell parents because they have some sense that the child is at fault. And no victim needs to be told "You shouldn't have..."
You did what you needed to do to survive. Bravo.
Now you are doing what you need to do to recover. That is harder in some ways but it is worth it. Traumatic events such as rape need to come out. With people who are considered safe. And in a way that doesn't overwhelm you. Go slow. Very slow as you enter this part of your recovery.
Be kind and gentle with yourself. You deserve it.
As for people like jw - well I've decided to stay away from that thread
