My "Unexpected Lunch Date Surprise" --or, Blow me down! (page 2)

luna2

So shameless, and now I bet the sister in law is sprouting off to everyone how Jehovah answered her prays to help her go to the convention

This is what gets me too. His family has abused and used "Rico" but they can feel justified because Jehohum has "blessed" them by somehow making this man support their crap trip. Ugh! Infuriates me.

What I also don't get is if this is his family, a bunch of people who ignore him...unless they need something from him...why is he breaking up with his g/f over not being more involved with them? Or did I read that wrong?

fullofdoubtnow

...Rico is obviously not of their "sort."

No, he sounds far too kind and generous to anywhere near one of their "sort". And the cheek of his sister!

Van Gogh

"Him and all the other "Rico's" that we will never know about, because there are too many to count."

Lisa, that is a nice thought.
If only we could "know" more of these precious souls. Who knows, someone out there does know them after all and does give them credit...

"He still has some level of belief in God and the Truth, I told him I didn't but I didn't tell him why, too overwhelming for him."
Perhaps it could be a comforting thought that none of us are anywhere near to being enlightened on many aspects of our (our) life. I think that in some respects we all are in some kind of limbo and I think it was wise of you to respect the integrity of what he is able to live and work with. At least he is out and is doing well financially.
VG

Why Georgia

Lisa,

That is so very sad. Unfortunately it seems frightfully common. Very similar to how we don't hear from some of my husbands JW family until there is some sort of crisis or need for help.

I hope your friend isn't so in need of love that he goes back to the JW's.

Best Regards,

Chrystal

Scully

Assures him that she loves him but can not associate with him, and then proceeds to ask if he will help their family pay for a trip to Poland to attend the International Assembly this summer.

Leeches. This is just another example of the phenomenon displayed by JWs that I like to call You Aren't Good Enough to Spend Time With Us, But Your Money Is Just Fine .

I'm so effing sick and tired of JW relatives expecting me to help finance "group gifts" for other JW relatives. I don't even get to see a frikkin photograph of the gift, or even get to be there when the gift is given to the recipient. I'm not welcome to spend time with them, but hell yeah my money is just fine with them.

They have all their secret little get togethers that I don't find out about until long after the fact. And the last time I did see them on "neutral territory", they took photographs of my kids when I was out of the room.... and never bothered to tell me. That was their way of thumbing their nose at me because since they refuse to have us visit them in their house, I've stopped sending pictures of my family. I was LIVID when I found out that they snuck behind my back like that. They are the ones who keep saying that they don't want anything to do with us, yet they are "hurt" that I won't send pictures or keep them updated on our lives out of respect for their expressed wishes, so they have to resort to subterfuge to still have the normal things that normal people take for granted.

I used to think that being "more loving" and setting the example of what "Christianity" is supposed to be would be the thing that got their attention. All that did was turn me into their doormat - they took advantage of every kindness and offered nothing in return. I'm soooo done with that now. If they want to cut me out of the family, they are going to get exactly what they want. I will not beg for their company, association or love. When they want to include me in the family again (not just my wallet), they know where they can find me, for now. The next time I move or change my email address, they won't be finding out about it.

Scully

Oh, and I'm dying to know the answer to this: If his brother is a DO, why is his sister-in-law calling him asking for money to finance their trip to the International Convention in Poland? Why isn't the WTS/Mother™ financing their trip? Mommy's a bit of a tightwad, isn't she?

LDH

why is he breaking up with his g/f over not being more involved with them? Or did I read that wrong?

I suspect she may be 'over' the non-stop drama, like I would be. It seemed his family is always calling on him....for help, not to display love. That's not the only reason, there were others he shared with me that indicated perhaps his girlfriend is not as unselfish as he is, and this can rub a generous person the wrong way.

And yes, that is sheer audacity to ask a worldly relative for help, I agree. Scully I also found that intertesting, and why has she been thinking about it for 'months'--were they expected to set aside some of the green handshake money? What really chapped me is that they know he has resources and they don't hesitate to ask for them. All while doing not one scintilla of anything for him.

He is such a GOOD GUY! He will not be on the market for long, that is for sure.

Perhaps it could be a comforting thought that none of us are anywhere near to being enlightened on many aspects of our (our) life. I think that in some respects we all are in some kind of limbo and I think it was wise of you to respect the integrity of what he is able to live and work with. At least he is out and is doing well financially.

Thanks VG.

Lisa

LDH

Rico is obviously not of their "sort."

Well lucky for them, that doesn't bother them when they need money for TheoKratic purchases!

TheListener

He sounds like a great guy. But, is it possible that the gf thought he was being taken advantage of by his family? Maybe that's why she wasn't all that interested in them.

damselfly

WOW The nerve of some people. I plan on fiancally helping out my younger siblings with school and my parents as they age, but no way would it ever go for anything JW related.

Dams

My "Unexpected Lunch Date Surprise" --or, Blow me down!

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