At This Point, Would You Care If You Are or Were Disfellowshipped??? (page 3)

fleaman uk

It would be like the Lesbian Chess Fellowship of Mumbai telling me that I would NEVER be considered for membership

bloody ell that was amusing.lol.

RichieRich

DAing feels good. Its telling them "you can't fire me- I quit!"

Mine was considered a verbal DA. I told them I wanted to be DFed, as it put me in a better legal posistion, and that forced them to accpet my DA.

Then they wanted my letter but i told them they would have to accept my verbal DA.

Its just about making more trouble for them.

Honesty

Mine was considered a verbal DA. I told them I wanted to be DFed, as it put me in a better legal posistion, and that forced them to accept my DA. I told them they would have to accept my verbal DA.

That's exactly how I went, too. Window cleaners and janitors don't make very good pastors, anyway.

At this point the Watchtower org has no control or authority in my life. [Though my presence here still shows they have some impact, huh?] They can do as they wish - but I am the kind of guy that would like to be in control of how it goes down if I can. So I will prob DA if it is forced to that - rather than DF.

They have already ruined my good name among those I knew all my life - so what the hell in either case. But - I would prob have the last scene be that of Butch Cassidy and the SUndance Kid rather than going out with a wimper.

I like Blondie's idea of a letter in the local paper to make it as public as you can do so legally.

Jeff

funkyderek

Personally it wouldn't bother me. I am no longer a JW, however the religion regards me. But it would upset my mother, my brother would shun me and I wouldn't be able to see my niece and nephew. So I'd prefer to stay as I am. In any case, the elders haven't contacted me in about nine years, and when they did, I made sure they knew that if they tried to take me down, I'd go down in flames.

minimus

I now tell people that I USED to be a Jehovah's Witness.

VM44

Before they could even begin, I would make them have to prove that I ever was a JW!

--VM44

White Waves

At this point I'd have to say "no, not at all." I am shunned completely anyways. There would be no difference. I have no intentions of ever going back - if anything, I would promote the distruction of the WBTS. My boyfriend and his family hope the JW family members I have will open their eyes and see all of the good qualities in me and remember they onced loved me. They want to meet them and have them in the family too. It is too much for them, at this point, to understand that it will never be the way they imagine. This is the only reason I have not DA'd myself.

hybridous

Actually, yes, it would matter to me...

You see, I'm trying to keep hold of the best possible relationship between me and my devout JW family. A very long time ago, as a child, I figured out that I wouldn't live happily as a Witness. That being the case, I never got baptised, but maybe I was being disingenuous...I always gave, and still give, the distinct impression that I am somewhat interested in the JW faith, but am holding back for some reason.

This act, this...falsity...is what keeps me within a semi-normal relationship with the people I love very much. So, I've been able to keep any JW 'label' from applying to me, and therefore giving any reason for my JW family to shun me. I aimed for the 'cracks' in this sick JW belief system, and somehow, I seemed to have hit the bullseye. I have seemingly locked onto the only 'semi-honorable' exit from this miserable cult.

So, YES, I would care if any label were to be slapped on me. It would mean strain on the relationship between me and the JW family. I'm not sure exactly what power the local Elders wield, given that I was never baptised, but that seems to be a crucial point, for some reason...

RubaDub

I would be devistated.

I would no longer get that thrill of reporting a 100% increase in field service when I went from 1 hour last month to 2 hours this month.

It's sort of cool to feel like you have doubled your effort!

Rub a Dub

At This Point, Would You Care If You Are or Were Disfellowshipped???