At This Point, Would You Care If You Are or Were Disfellowshipped???

by minimus 51 Replies latest jw friends

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  free2beme

  If they wanted to make it official, I would not care, I would probably laugh at their wasted energy to df someone who left in the mid 90's.
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  freetosee

  Minimus,
  "So do they not say that someone is DISFELLOWSHIPPED and ONLY that they are no longer JWS???"
  They say you are either DF, DA or "no longer recognized as JW" depending on the case. -for example: you would be announced “as no longer recognized as one of JWs”. Now for the local congregational member this means equal to you being disfellowshipped, but to the law ‘you just not being recognized’ is of no significance. Just like you could be recognized to be a JW, when you actually are not. (Thinking of the WTS self presentation –men of old, the Israelites and Jesus are considered to be Jehovah’s Witnesses- one should ask, when does one begin being a JW? Or at what point does one stop?) Legally one is recognized as qualified to drive a vehicle when one receives a driving licence, even though one may have been able to drive years before being licensed. Most of the times when people lose there licence it is much too late.
  If you were not D’F by the congregation elders, you could not sue the WTS or cong. successfully, because you are still a publisher. It is like you are not fired and are just not coming to work.
  So there is a noteworthy difference between in being disfellowshipped or disassociated and also “not recognized as JW”.
  Freetosee
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  ESTEE

  <--------Happily df'd since 1999!

  *hugs*

  ESTEE
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  spawn2u

  I was told to meet with them, they would have taken me back, I chose to do a no show, I wanted the big DF!!!! I got it and couldn't be happier, other than the loss of one friend and a number of family members.
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  lovernotafighter

  I have no family members remaining in that cult, so it would not bother me. I do have one friend who remains in that racket to please his family, but he would not shun me. I would not make it easy for them however, I would refuse to meet with any of them regarding the D'fn.

  It really has nothing to do with me, its their choice. I was born into their lie, I had choice. Stopped going to meeting right after I graduated and left home.

  The only thing they could maybe D'F me for is celebrating holidays and birthdays and not going to meetings. Seems very petty to me, but small minded control groups are that way...

  GO AHEAD MAKE MY DAY!
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  fullofdoubtnow

  So do they not say that someone is DISFELLOWSHIPPED and ONLY that they are no longer JWS???

  I da'd, and several of the people I was closest to know that, but the announcement was *Linda is no longer one of jehovahs witnesses*, or so I heard, i wasn't there at the time.

  Df'd or da'd, it makes no differrence to me. I am out, that is the important thing.
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  cyberdyne systems 101

  You can bet once the rumour mill has started, people would know why your out anyhow, the announcement will still start the gossips off, with the same result - shunning

  CS 101
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  minimus

  After all of this time, I'm glad that the elders still don't bother me. The CO asked my mom if all of her family were in the "Truth". She replied that I left right after she was removed as a Pioneer for going to her granddaughter's wedding in which she married a "worldly" man. The CO said she should continue to pray for me before it's too late. Once my mom passes, I really won't care whether I got kicked out or not.....In the meantime, I'm happy that their not directing their efforts on me.
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  done4good

  They have no control over my life, at this point. The answer would be no. Aside from perhaps loosing one good friend, (and yes, that would hurt), I would welcome officially being known as no longer a jw.

  j
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  zagor

  I stopped worrying about that long time ago. Once you get over that bridge there's no turning back, I think (no offence to anyone) only people still unsure about their decision care about it. The only other explanation I can think of is if they have family they don't want to lose.

  As for me I honestly don't give a damn, they treat me as dfd anyway, so what would change??