Were YOU Gossiped About In The Congregation? (page 5)

KimberB

It's funny that as much as they preach love and fellowship, I never saw one person cry over losing a friend who got disfellowshipped, unless it was blood family....It was more like a soap opera and the closer you were to a disfellowshipped person, the more exciting it was to have the juicier bit of gossip.

I remember stupid lies that got passed around. I remember being 12 and getting a pair of hand me down high heels from my sister. I remember being so excited about my first pair of (low) high heels, but when I walked by a group of sisters (pioneers) I saw them pointing at my shoes, and overheard them comment about what a slut I looked like.....I was only 12 !!! I never wore those shoes to the KH again.

misspeaches

Welcome KimberB! Not even children were free from the vicious slanderous rumours and gossip of the congregation.

I was gossiped about. One that comes to mind is when I was in my mid 20's, never had had a boyfriend, and people began to speculate that I might be a lesbian. Even my own family members asked me if I was in that half joking/half serious manner that the JW's perfect.

serendipity

Hi Miss Peaches,

Your comments brought back memories I had forgotten about. When I was a teenager, I was labelled as a lesbian because I wasn't boy-crazy. There were slim pickens in the boy department where I lived and definitely not much to be crazy about. (Besides, I preferred the company of books which allowed me to rise above my environment, and at least mentally take flight.) One of the 'brothers', J, in the hall told me about the rumor and told me he thought the girl who was spreading it was rather mean. I confronted her and told her it was making her look bad. That comment is what stopped her - she didn't want to be thought badly of- she didn't care about me. Interestingly enough, it turns out J was gay, and pursued that lifestyle after he left home.

delilah

If you're alive, in a congregation, and at all intersting, attractive, or successful (or any combination thereof) believe me, you're being talked about.

essie

Ain't THAT the truth???? no pun intended. After my husband was DF'd, my grandmother asked me if if it was because he had been unfaithful to me. I asked where she'd heard that, and she told me it was the talk of the service group....and she always went out with the elderly ones...I was stunned, and then I laughed and told her it was because he'd started smoking again. What a bunch....never seen the likes of them.

Berean

I was lied about and slandered by another elder that wanted to be PO so bad, that he would LIE AND SLANDER!

Three out of four of the other Elders agreed with me on this subject.

The CO and DO covered up the lies and slander of the one elder that I served with in the Congregation; also covered with the two elders in another congregation (a father and son) – the son wanted to be the PO in my congregation, so, they figured that if they backstabbed me, the son would be appointed PO (LOL, they were wrong – they didn’t stand a chance with the more Godless elder in my congregation). Evidently I was in the wrong for not hiding the fact that I was lied about and slandered – evidently that showed a lack of humility. Shame on me … wanting the TRUTH to be told.

You never stand up for the truth, what is right, and what is just in the Watchtower Corporation. You ALWAYS COVER UP so that the Watchtower Corporation can say “THOSE PROBLEMS DO NOT EXIST BETWEEN JEHOVAHS WITNESSES.”

What a bunch of Godless liars!!!!

serendipity

Hi KimberB, welcome to the forum!

spawn2u

Oh I am sure! Although I only know of one time for a fact. They didn't need to work to hard, my father (Bi-Polar) a recognized JW made the paper for dragging a dog, mother ended up with braken body parts, bruises and the like. Even with dad out of the mix being a broken family was enough to fuel a fire.

aoxo

at age 18 i had befriended another sister who just moved to the cong. we got along great as just friends. we spent a summer hanging out which felt like several years. we were so much alike but had to stop hanging out because people in the cong. were gossiping about how we were dating and would probably end up having sex in the car in some desolate parking lot. i elders even had a meeting about it with her mother who came up with the rule (probably a "suggestion" from the elders) that we had to have someone with us when we hung out like a chaperone even though we weren't dating. in a cong. where i had no friends they took away my only friend.

Kero-kero

Yes! I was Gossiped about...just because I struck up a friendship with a Japanese women who was studying....Well, considering I was the only that could actually speak Japanese in the congregation...of course we are going to talk to each other....But by all accounts...she was my 'girlfriend' Mmmmm! 1) I would often talk with her in front of wife. 2) she was a married women with two grown up sons and a daugther that lived and worked in Switzerland.

Yes I admit..I did sometimes join in with her study..which was with two Japanese sisters....and yes I did sometimes take her to the Japanese meeting...but if that means we were having an affair...or whatever their twisted minds were thinking....then they really are a sad bunch of people.

Oh yes...and there was the gossip about me being a strange person and has such most of the congregation did not want to associate with me, I am unfriendly and cold. Don't travel with that brother Steve he might play some demonic music in his car....There they go judging me by my past.....They seem to think because I was a Goth I was some how worshipping Satan before I came into 'the truth' Only one guy...sorry brother would actually socialise with me...He was a biker and we got on well. But something must have been said to him because eventually...when he was 'spiritually strong' he would not socialise with me.

You know...none of my so called friends in the truth even invited me to their weddings. The brother who was my best man....did not invite me or my wife to his wedding....Why because people would gossip about me and say false things about me, I was strange, I was weird, I am not strong in the truth. Hang about...I think you find I was spending a lot of my time trying to help out in the 'foriegn field' I used up all my holiday once to Aux Pioneer...In the end I did more hours than a full time pioneer for that month.

I could go on...I keep getting told we go to the meetings for Jehovah....yeah...maybe...but it would help if I felt somekind of friendship...or that I was actually wanted there...but I did not. So they can stick their meetings where the sun does not shine...and now I have found out the real truth about The Truth.

Dr Jekyll

You know...none of my so called friends in the truth even invited me to their weddings. The brother who was my best man....did not invite me or my wife to his wedding....Why because people would gossip about me and say false things about me, I was strange, I was weird, I am not strong in the truth.

That sucks big hairy ones. I've been in that situation too and for me it was a massive kick in the balls. My best mate in the truth, the one i grew up with met sister stuck up, 15 yrs older than him and DESPERATE for a man. She swept him off his feet an they were arranging their marriage within 3 months. Of course i wasn't spiritual enough to get a wedding invite even though some brother that my "mate" thought was slimy and had just been publicly reproved because he couldn't control keep his fingers with an elders daughter did.

It killed our friendship and made me really conscious about how some people were two faced and judgemental within the truth.

Were YOU Gossiped About In The Congregation?

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