by JH 22 Replies latest jw friends
JH I'm worried about you. How do you think you're doing spiritually these days?
I walked away.The current policy seems to promote a standoff. If I don't 'cause trouble' with their flock they, won't 'cause trouble' with me. I was never much good at convincing people to join the cult and I'm not much good at getting them out.
'weak as piss in the truth™' unc
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LOL at Garybuss. Yes - reserve the right to forgive or not (only fools forget).
JH I'm worried about you. How do you think you're doing spiritually these days?
Well, I've missed many meetings since many full moons....
I think it would be funny to do this to the ones who wont even say hello.
Get together with a few df'd people, or people who are being shunned. Wait in the parking lot at the grocery store till the shunner goes in. Put all the shunned ones in all different isles, so the shunner bumps into a different one everytime they turn the corner!!!!!!!!!!
Or maybe block an isle with a few, so they have to turn around and go the other way!
Maybe form a train effect going in one direction past this person, having everyone say "hello" as they walk by. That would be funny if you had like 10 people pushing carts.
I simply smile, and say, "Hello." I then go on about my business. They can't control you if you don't let them.
There are several reasons why a JW you recognize might not say hi
1) They don't remember who you are or
2) You seem familiar but they can't remember why
3) They don't remember your name and are embarrassed
4) They didn't go to your KH and are not sure of your status (for faders who don't get greeted)
5) They do go to your KH and can't remember if you are DF'd
6) They didn't hear you say hi or see your wave
7) Their mind was on something else
I have waved at people I know from work who have not waved back (#1, #2, #3, #6,#7). Just get a little closer, perhaps enough to make good eye contact, and shake their hand....introducing yourself in case your name has slipped their mind. Smile, ask how they are doing.
Blondie
I've found great joy in doing any shopping I have to do on sunday morning, about 45 minutes after the meeting let out. B/C tons of JW families are there at the grocery store or wherever else and they love to look. So I just walk by, smiling, happy, and I think that's the best way to give them a message. I'm not dead, I don't have to hide, and I damn sure don't have to look away.
I'm as human as they are. I'd say more.
*** km 8/02 p. 3 par. 4 Display Christian Loyalty When a Relative Is Disfellowshipped ***
4 What about speaking with a disfellowshipped person? While the Bible does not cover every possible situation, 2 John 10 helps us to get Jehovah’s view of matters: “If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, never receive him into your homes or say a greeting to him.” Commenting on this, The Watchtower of September 15, 1981, page 25, says: “A simple ‘Hello’ to someone can be the first step that develops into a conversation and maybe even a friendship. Would we want to take that first step with a disfellowshiped person?”
/sigh
Of course that is a ridiculous way to apply that scripture, but who cares. Don't want to go down the slippery slope, do we?
I'm happy if JWs don't talk to me. I'm not missing out on anything. It's not as though they have anything worthwhile to say.
They treat you this way and you're not even df'd! They're not giving you any reason to go back, are they?
W
folks would run over the otherside of the street and hide when mum was disfellowshipped. they are fools.
Even though Im not DF/DAed (yet), I have been fading for some months and have expierienced the big S a few times now.
Most recently I went into a resturaunt with a few friends and ran into a table of dubs. Actually I really wasnt even to the door yet, when I met a glance of one of the people at the table. She promptly decided that she needed to stare at her plate so intently I thought she might be doing math problems down there. When I got inside I went over and greeted everyone and got zero response from one side of the table and had a nice chat with the folks on the other side.
Just for the hell of it I tried to embarass the deaf/mute side of the table by being extra nice and friendly, but either way I could really care less. I had nothing in common with the people at my hall and never really did anything with them outside of the meetings and service (less one or two).
There are people who are still in the troof that would get to me if they shunned me, but they arent in my hall and I think they are still trying to figure out what I am doing.
