yes Fl native
as jnat, said, affairs if nothing else, complicate your life so much. All the sneaking around.
Better to be in love and loving the one you are with.
it can go either way, he may want you, but for him to do that, he'll be disfellowshipped. That is not the end of the world, but he may feel it is. The only way you will know is to ask him.
Before I'd put myself through this confrontation i'd get some professional advice and help in clearing your thoughts. When you confront him, it may be the end to your relationship. How will you feel then?
Personally, I feel you have been taken advantage of. And I feel his wife has a right to know who she is sharing a bed with.
please take care and do read those personal stories over at
i'll be thiking about you. I imagine you must feel gutted.