Hi again Ann,
You wrote:
I am currently still a jehovah witness, on paper; I have not attended a meeting for over 6 months.
Also:
Parents: They support us either way. Either way they will be there at the wedding. It is just the fact that they continue to make comments that hurt.
You are in a better position than many people on this forum! You've already made the decision to stay away from meetings, indeed you were questioning certain things (good for you, by the way), and so you will already be considered weak by the elders. Therefore, you might as well continue in the same vein and never go back.
As your parents, and your fiance's, would support you either way (in spite of their stupid comments) and attend your wedding I really believe you are worrying unnecessarily. There are many here who would love to be in the position you are, i.e. not having attended meetings but still having supportive parents. There are many here who go to meetings week in and week out just to please their parents while inside they are tortured.
If you and your fiance genuinely love each other then that's all that matters. The JWs are quick to point out that at marriage a man and a woman become one and the woman shall stick to her husband. So, play them at their game and marry your man and stick to him - well away from the organisation.
You have years of happiness ahead of you. Don't lose the opportunity by being tied down (in your minds) by a heinous organisation that is rapidly being exposed for all the lies and injustices it has performed over the years.
Ian