(((mouthy))) I pray too that you'll see ALL your children and loved ones together again one day.
poppers - I think you might enjoy reading John MacQuarrie's books! He's one of the top 'existentialist' theologians and very readable as far as theology books go!!
Once you see for yourself that "you" are nothing but a collection of ideas that are clung to the egoic sense begins to crumble. What is left is the awareness in which those ideas arise. This natural state of awareness is what you actually are, and it is not separate from anything else. "YOU" are seen to be whole, and with wholeness fear evaporates.
To put this into my Christian viewpoint, I would say it's similar to stopping looking inwards to yourself - thinking what you can do to please God (thus inducing fear of not making the grade) and instead, looking outwards to Him, existing in His love, being at one with Him so He's no longer a threat to the ego (bringing 'fear' as in 'awe/respect' - a correct type of fear). Sorry if I'm not explaining myself very well, it's been a long, hot day, lol!