well when my mother dies I doubt any of them will tell me. If I did find out I would go to the area but see no reason to go to their hall and be treated like dirt. I'd rather just do my own thing if I go.
My daughter's fatherwillprobably die a JW. I know they will go and since they were never DFed or DAed they might not be shunned. But if I went to support them I know it would only cause problems
It's not worth it
But if I was on a mission I just might do it - like I did for silentlambs, making sure cards were "available"