Just wanted to say Hello! (page 2)

Bodhisattva1320

HI RandomD ;)

i hope your kids have some fun soon!!! They will end up finding it one way or another! (i sure did) Hopefully your hubby will realized that soon.

Welcome :)

I had a childhood like you suggest your children have. Mom was never active in the dubs - but was baptised - and we were raised like dubs, sans the actual meeting attendance [sporadic at best]. In those days the witlesses would come by and study with families like ours from time to time, but that was about our whole exposure to the 'truth'. But still, no holidays, birthdays, etc.

Why should the kids be subject to a religion that no one is practicing? Either he should press the suit and bring the family along [though this option is sickening to me, but this is about principle], or let the family live life as they decide is right for them.

After all, according to dub doctrine, he and you and the kids will all die at Armageddon anyway if not in the borg - so why not have a life while you wait? Personally - though I detest the dub religion now, having left after giving them 40 years of my life - I think you should tell hubby to shit or get off the pot.

Just my opinion

Jeff

diamondblue1974

Welcome to the forum

DB74

Honesty

Hi RandomD, and welcome to JWD !!! Look around the board and you will find some thought-provoking questions to ask Hubby. He may see what a fraud the Watchtower is.

juni

Welcome RandomD.

Why on earth would your husband keep your kids from enjoying their childhood when he only goes for pretenses to the Hall every 6 months?

He should do what he wants to do and leave them be. That is just abusing his "headship". Damn that word as the JWs define it.

How can he be so hypocritical and drag his kids along w/his ideas? I just don't understand. He must want to prove himself in front of the cong. that he is doing his job as a parent. God I feel sorry for your kids.

You have to stand up and be their advocate!!! And he needs to grow up and quit being controlling.

I hope you do what is right for your kids RandomD. Your husband is a big boy now. He can trot along to the Hall and attend himself. Please don't let him get away w/that. I speak from experience as we have 4 kids raised in that org.

Juni

Moomin

Hello RandomD :)

drew sagan

There are alot of people out there like your husband. Millions of them.

If you husband is going to lighten up then he needs to see the falseness of JW teaching. More than likely he has a guilty conscience over a number of things. Holding on to a number of JW attitudes is very normal, it makes the person still feel they are 'doing the right thing' by being somewhat loyal to JW belief.

There are all kinds of ways to approach this subject, you have to pick what is best for you and your family. I would encourage you to do some study on the JWs, read books by ex-members, and get a good feel for why the organization is wrong. Your personal religous beliefs effect this as well. IMO it is much eaiser to draw someone away from the Watchtower appealing to basic Christianity and a desire to follow the Bible rather than challenge it through atheism. I have no problem with what anybody wants to believe, it's just that having a strong faith in the Bible makes it eaiser to move others.

You might want to pick up Crisis of Conscience and try to work it into a conversation, like "I was reading about this thing on the internet and you wouldn't believe..." or something like that. You know whats best.

People who no longer are active JWs will still be one in their heart forever unless their thinking is changed. Most become so guilt ridden that they never even contemplate that the WTS is wrong, they think it is all them! He needs drawn to the real truth or he will be stuck in limbo for the rest of his life. Remember too that JWs are allways looking to 'reactivate' the inactive ones. Your husband may be targeted for 'encourangement' sometime down the road.

Choose your actions wisely. Gook Luck! I'd like to hear how it is going.

RandomD

Thanks everyone for the welcome. And I'm already getting some great advice. In my heart, I already know the advice you guys are giving. I do believe he does just to make himself look good and that's what I tell him, you're not teaching them the truth, you're not guiding them in that regard, so why do we have to sit on the fence? Don't they preach against that too?!

Anyway, glad to be here and hope to get to know you guys!

BabaYaga

Welcome RandomD!

You found this board, you're in good hands. Knowledge is power.

Just wanted to say Hello!