by ESTEE 60 Replies latest jw experiences
I'm proud of who I am now, just not in a superior kind of way! lol At least who I am now is based on me, not what they thought I should be. Whats funny is that underneath my superior attitude I felt completely worthless, I could never get it right or be good enough.. how's that for contradictory?
I shudder when I think of how I used to say "worldly" with that tone.. you all know the one I mean. UGH!! Actually it's similar to how I say JW's now! Lol, I guess I should work on that!!
Misty
I do know that faders make better spies- thanks for keeping the rest of us up to date!
But Daniel : Did you indulge with lots of loose conduct with Bethel Sisters? Or are you gay? That is the question
In a way i think that faders are cleverer than d/a`s and d/f`s, but they have to suffer longer by putting in appearances, whereas d/a can cut off easier than d/f, but i think d/a ones think they are better than d/f ones, as they `chose` to leave, whereas the d/f ones `had` to leave. Looking at it from the other side, the wts think that the d/a`s are worse than the d/f ones, as they have turned apostate, whereas the d/f ones have `sinned` or are `weak`. dido
I DA'd. Fading didn't work out because I was married to a double-dipped pioneer sister who was being constantly interrogated regarding my proplonged absence from sales meetings disguised as worship services. I would have been DF'd for APOSTASY within a week for 'creating divisions' within several congregations if I had not DA'd. In the eyes of the local dubs I'm worse than a DF'd or Fader. In the eyes of the Watchtower Society I am a dangerous person for using their own publications for assisting others wishing to learn the truth about the cult. I think DF'd people have it better than DA'd people because sometimes their families will interact a little with them. My JW family are embarrassed because of me and except for one treat me like an insect that deserves a shot of RAID.
I'm a fader/inactive JW. I hope I have never given anyone the impression that I am better because of it. Each person knows their own situation and what is best for them and their family. Who am I to judge?
Blondie
Isn't it funny no one ever responds to what they really are!
One thing I have learned from being in the WT for over 50 years, was how judgemental they all are, and how superior they feel. I have come away knowing I never want to be judgemental again. If one is disfellowshipped, asks to be disassociated, or just fades, that is each ones decision, for whatever reason. Personally, I would love to write a letter, but don't want to play their games, making things easy for the elders (who have never even contacted us once in the last 5 years). We'll be content to "fade", although I think we are more noticeable than ever. My mom-in-law, who still speaks to us, told us she was asked to meet with the brothers at the circuit assembly elders meeting. It seems we now have our own website called The True JW's, started our own religion, and are holding seance memorials. The gossip mill is running overtime. So much for fading, at least for now!
Little Bo Peep
BTW, you can be a fader and not be going to any meetings. And that time period of gradually not going to any meetings, need not be long. It depends partly on your status in the congregation to start with and sometimes how many family members are JWs locally, and how many local congregations there are. Moving is helpful in fading.
The important is not to be be judging other's actions and motives. I think we can all say that we had enough of that when we were captive to the Borg.
Blondie
HELL YES!!!! Faders are better!!!
Better at staying out of sight!
jimbo (of the quietly fading class)
I faded, and I don't consider myself to be any better in any way, shape, or form to those who were DA'd or DF'd... in fact, that was the reason I left, was the horrid, un-Christ-like practice of disfellowshipping, and shunning in either case.
I DO however, consider myself to be incredibly blessed and lucky, because all of my loved ones still in do still express their love for me... even ones who quit talking to me for years are now back in my life, and I love that. I think that if one can manage to fade, it just makes it easier on those who truly love you who are still trapped inside by their own minds and hearts. We can do a lot more if we can still communicate.
