I will be turning in my resignation today.

AK - Jeff

From the dubs. After being cornered and tired of the games, I suggested Kevin Elder meet me and I would give him my letter of DA. He doesn't know it has been posted on this forum and on Jwfacts site for a week or better, and that I sent many copies of it out to former friends last Friday. So they will see it before he does. I also emailed some witnesses with the web page address [yea like they would ever look on the web]. I imagine it is horrible thought for them that someone would post such a thing on the internet for all to see.

I dissed the 'chairman of the judicial committee' with this approach. He is a self righteious ass hole, and so I bypassed him entirely by contacting this elder instead. I am sure the 'hate me with great hatred' at the KH about now.

This weekend I noticed a greater sense of life and freedom than I have felt before. I think I really needed this closure, though I thought I didn't.

Jeff

Pubsinger

Hi Jeff.

Not really familiar with your story but I hope it works out well.

Interesting comment about needing the closure but not realising that you did.

I think lots of us who are not DA'd or DF'd but rather have faded or have been labelled "DA'd by our actions" have wondered whether we should seek full closure.

Pub

purplesofa

I think I really needed this closure, though I thought I didn't.

I think that is where I am at to be able to move on.

Will be thinking of you throughout the day.

purps

AK - Jeff

I have been on a real high since I determined this final act to the play, Pubsinger.

There is just something about finally saying, in words on paper, 'I am done with your little cult guys'. There is no significance to me as to how they view me, it is about how I view me, I think.

I don't know if one ever closes the book on 40 yrs of cult indoctrination, but I sense that personal dignity is part of this for me at least. Everyone knows precisely where I stand now.

Jeff

Pubsinger

Hi Purple

In what way are you wanting to move on?

In life or in faith?

It's an interesting point that's been raised here.

Actually is it possible to move on in one of those areas whilst being stuck in another?

purplesofa

There is no significance to me as to how they view me, it is about how I view me, I think.

Exactly

purps

Pubsinger

Jeff.

Glad to here it!

I personally have moved on both in faith and in life and so I have closure even though I don't think they have (as shown by the fact that some treat me one way, some another and some keep changing their minds!)

My wife though struggles with exactly this issue especially with respects to family. I think she would like to know and for everyone else to know where we stand.

purplesofa

I think its just like when you work towards baptism or marriage. There is a difinitive statement. A decision, you and everyone else knows where you stand.........and with that I think there is freedom.

I know I will have to do this to feel and be what I want to do.

But, my Mom is in, and I want to get her out as well. I could not bear it if I did not do all I could to "save her Life"

purps

gotta go to work.

Jeff

Again, thanks for sharing your experiance.

purps

Dismembered

Cheers AK - Jeff,

You did the right thing!

Dismembered

jayhawk1

There are times I wish I could do the same and DA. There is no pressure from the local Congregation and my elderly JW neighbor needs me, so it is not an avenue I care to go down. I do understand the closure thing, for me it sometimes feels like an open wound. Especially around holidays when I want to decorate the house for additional bonding time with my daughter. Maybe this year I will decorate the inside of her room at Christmas.

I will be turning in my resignation today.

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