Spend how much for wives/girlfriends? (page 2)

parakeet

"How much should a man tolerate a girlfriend or wife that is very demanding on clothes/shoes and other articles ..."

If she demands clothing, shoes and other personal articles, she should get a job and pay for them herself.

A relationship/marriage should be about equals. A woman who demands expensive things from a man and a man who feels compelled to buy them for her are both acting like children.

Nosferatu

Everyone had made excellent points so far...

Is there a limit to what one should spend to keep them happy beyond which it becomes a case of them taking advantage?

One thing you must learn is you cannot keep a person happy 100% of the time. Happiness is only a feeling. If you feel that she's taking advantage of you and using the happiness card to get what she wants, quit giving into it.

Here's a better idea.... Get her a gift when you're happy with the way she's treating you.

Butters

I always base this one on how many different sexual favors I am receiving in return. There are usually extra credit points for foot licking.

JH

Let them pay for us.

Brigid

In my opinion (and perhaps this view has already been proffered), as long as the woman has means (able body and mind), she should spend her money how she earns and sees fit. If she wants those things it really is not anothers' responsibility to buy those things for her. I'm a big believer in separate accounts and then if you're sharing a household together, each should contribute to that venture accordingly.

Gifts are one thing but demands and expectations from the woman to the man is absurd while we have equal access to earning capabilities.

hambeak

I think the couples budget has to be taken into consideration, are bills and obligations being met in a timley manner? Is the person going into debt just to satisfy materialistic things? Then it is up to the individual and if it starts to become a problem it can mean the end of a relationship.

daystar

What Brigid said... thank God!

"You've come a long way baby!"

Dansk

How much should a man tolerate a girlfriend or wife that is very demanding on clothes/shoes and other articles such as perfumes, handbags etc? Is there a limit to what one should spend to keep them happy beyond which it becomes a case of them taking advantage?

Let me put it this way. If my girlfriend was as demanding as you suggest, she certainly wouldn't become my wife!

Ian

Tuesday

I would say that if you can afford to spend money and they want something I wouldn't have an issue with spending it. If there wasn't any money to spend and still they were buying something that wasn't necessary then I would draw the line there.

Gregor

Lots of variables here. if the man is a geezer and she is is a young fox, then obviously he probably is going to make up for it in material "perks". But as a man I don't think a real relationship based on fiduciary compensation is very stable, ergo, I would not buy any luxery items on credit (Visa, etc). Bras, panties, toothpaste, food etc. are reasonable if you have decided to take her on as a companion under the roof your providing. But jewelry, perfume, expensive clothes-shoes are strictly for those who can afford a 'mistress'. If that is the case then knock your brains out!!

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