It's unforgivable that the good christians are DFd for sins that the WT/GB is guilty of. Oh well, it's to be expected from an orwellian institution.
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by Chameleon 61 Replies latest jw friends
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MidwichCuckoo
Frankly Chameleon - your parents KNOW you're not happy in the Org (as you've said as much), but, like all Dub parents, they would prefer you to remain unhappy so they can 'keep face' and ACT the perfect dub-family.
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Chameleon
Actually, apart from the fact that my dad's an elder, all of us (well, not sure about my dad) do less than 10 hours a month. None of us are pioneers (not even aux.). I'm a good son, I think, but continuing with the JWs is something that is not right, and sometimes you have to stand up for what you know is right, regardless of what your parents may think. I can understand where my parents are coming from, so the moving out and fading away is my decision on the best way to get out. It might take another year or two, but who knows? Maybe I'll get lucky.
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misanthropic
Welcome to the forum. Sounds like you have your head on straight and know what you need to do :) Glad to have you here.
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greendawn
Welcome to the forum, many JWs are so taken in by the propaganda and can't see the obvious faults of the org and after all they are still having those great expectations of eternal life and paradise that the org gives them so if it is false they stand to lose everything they invested in it.
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Gill
Hi Chameleon!
I think our parents always freak out when we say we don't want to be a JW anymore. To them, it's the same as saying, 'I don't want to live anymore.' They have no concept of the fact that they have been living their lives in a fantasy world. Living Forever is NOT going to happen. It's too much for them to comprehend.
So, you have to take your stand. Tell them you love them, but will NO LONGER be a JW and state your reasons.
Take it from there. Their reaction is their responsibility.
My parents still speak to me! They know they shouldn't, but they do. I think they still remember the things I told them about the WTBTS though we never discuss it any more.
I hope your escape goes smoothly.
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Clam
Welcome chameleon.
I must say that you sound like a strong and intelligent guy and that you're determined to be your own man. You said "people on this board seem friendly, which is more than I can say for my hall." I left the Borg for a number of reasons but this was the element which exposed the Dubs as not being God's people: the sheer lack of love. You'll find many good and genuine people outside of "Jehovah's Organisation", ex Dubs or not. You can have a good life with the foundation of freedom of choice. Unfortunately you have to be duplicitious to facilitate your exit from this cult. What you're doing is saving people's feelings and planning damage limitation. You sound smart and discrete enough to do this. Be careful and know you've got friends here.
Take care and good luck
Chris
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jaguarbass
Hello Chameloen
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sass_my_frass
Hi Chameleon and welcome! (And welcome to life as you never knew it!). It really is a tough and long road ahead; get a game plan now.
I might be an MS soon, unfortunately.
Dude, surely you can make yourself lame enough to not qualify. Are you able to take a vacation, and not go out on the preach for a month? They won't want somebody who isn't reporting regularly. If you can't, start counting your hours down (the opposite of what every JW on the planet does - they all round up, count double time on Sundays etc...) Even if you are forced to go out every weekend, surely your Dad won't know if you're only reporting 1 hour a month. Join a different car group to his and tell him that the people you go out with tend to finish early.
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sass_my_frass
And remember that a 'fade' never really ends... there's always pressure and your parents will always want answers and affirmation. I did what you'd call a fade for six years, and was finally df'd. Now my parents are angry that I never told them what I thought about being a JW. It would have sucked either way though.
Just take it slowly and only do what you're comfortable with.