Been in an longdistance relationship with a married woman (page 3)

mama1119

Everyone has such great advice, especially the LEAVE IT ALONE parts...I think thats a great idea!

If you really love her, understand this: If YOU are the catalyst that pulls her out of the religion, her marriage and her sense of self then you are in fact setting her back years in her recovery. She is going from one dependancy to another, which not only equates to NO growth on her part but actually a regression.

If you accept ownership for 'helping' her, 'encouraging' her to leave her religion and marriage, then you will also have to accept ownership for the success or more likely, failure of it all. She will harbour resentment towards you.

LET HER OWN THIS! It is the biggest way that you can help her. If she wants to get out, let HER get out, and then come to you. Just let her know that you are there, and waiting, if and when she decides what she wants in life.

Jez

jukief

Jez, that has to be the best advice so far. I hope he listens to you.

My MILs worst nightmare, a nonJW

well i rather try everything then live wondering if i only did this or that.

There is a context to the above statement when it comes to love. I believe that what it does refer to is meeting someone and letting them know your feelings as opposed to not saying any thing at all.

THIS STATEMENT IS NOT A JUSTIFICATION TO DO ANYTHING YOU PLEASE FOR AS LONG YOU PLEASE IN THE NAME OF LOVE.

You need to go see a professional therapist immediately, and talk this through, and let an expert evaluate your thought processes!

hemp lover

I'm confused. You're not a JW, but JWs are willing to hang out with you and go on fishing trips? Also, since it's a long distance relationship, how have you been able to become best friends with her family? Why would they ask "Where's Joe?" if you don't live around them anyway?

restrangled

Bottom line,

There is just a whole lotta wrong here. Sounds like fantasy land to me in every direction, get some professional help.

r.

daystar

I'm confused. You're not a JW, but JWs are willing to hang out with you and go on fishing trips? Also, since it's a long distance relationship, how have you been able to become best friends with her family? Why would they ask "Where's Joe?" if you don't live around them anyway?

Good catch HL...

Jez

Is it just me, or is there something fishy about this poster and this story?????? Can't put my finger on it, but something doesn't sit right in here.

Well, if I am wrong, then you have surprised me with your strength at letting her go and refusing to give into the temptation of helping her make decisions that should only be hers to make.

Your pain will lessen and maturity someday will allow you to look back and know that you made the right decision. Jez

SWolf

nothing is Fishy i did not want to let her go but all the things i tried to do just bounced off and no matter what i did she would not listen...so what else could i do....look this hurts me more then you think

AudeSapere

Wow. That's alot of thought and decision-making in just one day.

I wish you both well.

-Aude.

Been in an longdistance relationship with a married woman

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