Everyone should be welcome so long as they are civil and follow the rules.
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Gays Leave JWD!
by hambeak 141 Replies latest jw friends
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Quandary
I have found that a lot of homophobic people who speak out so adamantly against gay people are struggling with their own homosexual desires. That being said, who is that person, that he/she feels they can make up arbitrary rules to be forced onto this board? Is he/she a Forum Assistant?
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JWdaughter
I like you and don't want you to leave the board. What you do in your own time is your business, and if it is mentioned and I don't like it or agree with it-then -I- need to get over it. I don't do a lot of things that other people on this board do-but hell, they probably wouldn't do or want to do or even approve of some of the things I do. Our commonality is our former religion, and our diversity is part of my own evidence that we are truly 'out'.
I have two neices who are gay, and I don't consider them my 'gay nieces'. They are my beloved nieces. One is very artistic and bohemian and the other is very girly and loves basketball. Both are in college. One is a major rebel and the other is a mama's girl. I would no more stereotype them based on their sexuality than I would the ones who are of different races (very diverse family)based on who is black/jewish/hispanic/asian.
Would you consider 'outing' the vitriolic person? If they are so bold as to call you and tell you to leave the board, would they come on here and admit to being that person? I don't think this board is 'about' anyones sexuality. It is about us as people and our relationship to the WTS and JW's. At times the conversation reveals things about our marital status, love relationship or sexuality. That doesn't make it 'about' our sexuality.
Love, Shelly (married woman who thinks IP_Sec is cute and has never been warned off the board for admitting it!)
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Bryan
Sorry guy. Thanks for letting us know, and personally think that you should tell the moderators who did this. I really don't like spending my time with a person who feels this way.
Many of us here enjoy your posts.
Bryan... of the, Wish I was a lesbian class...
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Virgochik
That person was obviously speaking for themself, and not for the majority of the board. I can't believe someone would be so obnoxious as to call you, Hambeak, and be rude and mean. They certainly do not speak for me! You seem like a real nice guy. I'm sorry this happened to you.
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IP_SEC
You mean this person wants to disfellowship people from this board? hmmm old habits die hard eh?
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skyking
Let those that have no sin cast the first stone.
You are welcome here if I have anything to say about it.
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sass_my_frass
What!? After all that an ex-JW has been through, somebody else is telling you you're rejected?? Well that's just one person talking. I don't believe it's any of my business, or theirs or anybody else on this site. We have this thing in common and just about everything else about us is different, and I consider that one of the greatest things about leaving the cult - vive le difference!! The person who said that to you was way the hell out of line, and because I'm sure that person is going to read this thread I'd like to tell that person this: if you don't want any contact with gays, you're the person who should leave the board. Perhaps you could start your own so that you can make your own rules about who posts and who just listens in awe. If that's too much work for you, just grow up instead.
Please stay with us hambeak, it's really good to have you here and as it happens, this is the first time I learned you're gay. Not, as I said, that it's anybody's business.
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Lady Lee
The sign in the top left corner says
...everyone welcome!
Do you think that gay ex jw's should just go away?
Only if it is their choice. But . . .
so many people here have been hurt and oppressed by the WTS or are involved with someone who is or was a JW. That is what we have in common. Other differences, racel, age, orientation, new beliefs, disabilities, etc. are truly invisible here.
We were taught to be judgemental by the WTS. Here we have the opportunity to learn that what a person looks like or who they love, or what ever limitations they have are at the very least minimal compared to the hurts we all have in common.
We won't!
Good.
Granted some are weird and most are decent people. What do you say?
like the sign says:
...everyone welcome!
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LtCmd.Lore
Well I say you're welcome here... It's kind of weird, I always used to feel so special because I was a true christian and therefore not prejudist, now I realise how bigoted I was... who the heck am I to judge you? But now as an atheist I'm perfectly willing to accept everybody, ironic that I'm a better person without god, than I was as a christian.
Let me point out posting guideline number 2.
Please avoid:
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2. Inciting hatred on the basis of race, religion, gender, nationality orsexuality or other personal characteristic.
So if you don't mind my atheism, I don't mind your homosexualism... O.K we're good.
LtCmd.Lore