Terry:
As for myself I think reality is all we have, but; our prejudices distort a clear view and our longings and desires push us to distort our interior view into a kind of wishful-thinking.
Yes, of course, reality/actuality/truth is all there really IS, and so it is our true Identity, what we really are. However there is much untrue which appears to be. So it's a matter of recognizing what is a lie, seeing through it, and what remains is true and real.
In an extremely filtered (via memory, prejudices, longings, desires, beliefs, etc) process the mind interprets sensations and movement and weaves a "life story" around a point. The point being the "self", which is nothing but an extension of the story, a mind generated finite "individual" manufactured to give a sense of cohesion to the "life story". This story could include magical mystical experiences, or be more mundane as to whatever the filters allow through. It's important to acutely and nonjudgmentally watch the mind and see first hand that everything it presents is thickly tinted interpretation tightly supporting the continually running, underlying story of "self", and that "self's" relationship to it's universe. Everything the mind offers which it labels "reality" is only a feeble rendering and not real at all. It's all a lie. The biggest lie of all is the "me". Don't take my word for it. If there is a deep interest and longing for REALITY, watch the mind tenaciously weave it's story to continue the seeming "reality" of it's precious main character which the mind comes to unquestionably identify with. To witness this is like dying under extreme awareness.
Via sober and acute nonjudgmental investigation and observation, all which is false can be identified. What remains is not a story or experience. It is the conscious pristine purity of Reality and Truth. It is closer than experiences. It is what you really and truly are. No beliefs here. No mysticism. No story. No questions or confusion. Conscious-reality, closer and unimaginably more real than any and all experiences.
The door is always open. The time is always now and the place is always here. No one or no thing, is excluded. Discover the Reality of Self, and so too is discovered the Reality of all.
j