HAVE JWS RUINED YOUR LIFE?????? (page 3)

ChristianObserver

As Gill said, surgical techniques and medical knowledge improve all the time. I pray that your daughter's operation is a complete success. You are in a grieving process so vent away if it helps! The Open University runs some good courses as do most Adult Community Colleges. Joining a course will mean that you will meet new people and widen your circle of acquaintances, maybe finding possible work as a result. Those shunning you all are following the rules set by the organisation - you are no longer bound by those rules. If you and your wife can, try to feel pity for those who are and relief that you are no longer controlled as they are. Try to be positive and set yourselves small goals for each day which will enable you both to move on and to fill your lives gradually with others who are upbuilding. You may want to add your daughter to the weekly VIGIL thread prior to her operation so that she will be remembered.

sspo

Yes it did to a certain extent, the "truth" broke my marriage of 26 years due to " apostasy " and now i worry about my older kids still in it wasting their life.

Life moves on and will make the best of what is left, good sense of humor always helps.

fullofdoubtnow

They caused me a lot of hurt and disappointment, but they haven't ruined my life. I am happier now than I have ever been, and feel I have much more happiness to look forward to. They controlled my life while I was a jw, and affected my decision - making regarding career, relationships etc while I was a jw, but they no longer have any control over me, or power to do me any more damage.

OUTLAW

Jehovah`s Witness`s have ruined many things in my life,but they didn`t ruin my life..Being happy with your life outside the cult mess`s with thier minds.Your not supposed to be happy,the WBT$ says so.When I tell them I`m happy,they`ll say "But are you really happy?".???.How friggin happy do you have to be?!..LOL!!...OUTLAW

acadian

No, but a good friend lost all her house cleaning accounts after being DFed. (they were all JW's (there's a lesson there)) And I believe it's the cong's fault not just the elder's for the reason's she was DFed. Lack of spiritual help (and just being friend's) in a very trying time in her life. The only time she recieved visits by the "friends" and elder's was when they were out in servce. Yeah, they went out'a there way for their sister didn't they. Her husband was a serial rapist for twenty yrs. before getting caught, she went into a deep depression and the congregation and elder's best help for her was that she needed to make it to more of the meetings. She started drinking a bit more than she should and got DFed, my wife and I were there for her the whole time, Her only friend's in the hall. When the elders found out we were helping her, they DFed my wife, I DAed myself. Now all of us are happy again, and enjoying life and our friend found a man who really love's her. (except for the husband, he's serving a life sentence with no parole) The WTS, just another bump, on the road to life... Acadian

Anitar

Do you have to be a witness for the watchtower to ruin your life? They hurt the family members just as much even though they never join.

Gayle

Dear Chuckyy,

You deserve all the "pride" of a wonderful father now. We must have all the "hope" that can be for your daughter now. She now isn't denied but provided for the care she deserves. You must "boast" now that your daughter is "free" to have a fuller life. Focus on these good things now.

I, myself, too passed up college. Pioneered, Bethel, blah, blah. Married and had five children. Marriage ended, became the single mom with five children. I work full time, no degree. However, the "organization" didn't get my children and now four of the five now have their college degrees and the fifth is going on his GI loan after military. Yes, with time, your life will have a good list far outweighing that empty, extremely negative world we once were in.

Please keep us up-to-date regarding your daughter and so many best wishes,

Gayle McCurdy

Phoenix, AZ

Apostate Kate

Sorry Chukky for all the pain you have been through. I hope your daughter comes through the surgery without complications with a speedy recovery. There is many reasons to believe in a positive outcome.

I remember going through what you are. Many of us missed out on education, opportunities, wrecked families I used to have a website that stated the WT ruined my life and how. It is the anger we must experience to process this travesty of justice we have suffered.

my wife and i are shunned every day

In the words of an old friend " I SHUN THEM THEY DONT SHUN ME"

Take your power back. They got nothing on you. When I went through the shunning era I would deliberatly aproach them every time. I would not allow them to behave that way.

Hold on to your dignity and I can gauretnee you that you can turn all this suffering into something beautiful. Forget the so called friends and family that turned on you. There is a world full of lovely people out there.

The triumph of the human spirit.

Hondo

"Do you have to be a witness for the watchtower to ruin your life? They hurt the family members just as much even though they never join." No, you don't have to be a witness for the watchtower to ruin you life. I have never been one, but they took my wife of 20 years from me a few years ago. She is a Japanese National. I was in the Navy stationed in Japan. My ship was away, the kids were in school, and they came knocking. The rest is history. They took hold of her, and her entire life. I went from being a husband, a father, and part of good and loving family, to being just my wifes "non-believing mate." The kids (thank God they did not follow in her footsteps) and me went on with our normal lives. She, forgoing all the things we did as a family (Christmas, holidays, birthdays, etc.) did her JW thing. For all intents and purposes we, as a family, were dead, and the JWs did it. they are 100% responsible. The JWs/WTBTS wrapped her up and packaged her in their beliefs very nicely. We eventually divorced. I am convinced that the JWs knew exactly what they were doing when they broke up my family. My ex wife tried to get me and kids to join the cult. When we flat out refused, and opposed her even being part of this destructive group (I suspect that because of our arguments against her being part of the JWs that we became "opposers of the truth" to her, only widening the family rift between her and us) that was it; we were done as a family. It was only a matter of time before our lives would be separate. I recently saw her after several years. She was like a zombie. She refused to talk to me, or, for the most part, even ackowledge my presence/existance. I still love her dearly and hope and pray the God will guide and help her understand that the path to everlasting life is not through a man-made organization, but through our Lord Jesus Christ.

LongHairGal

I can't in all honesty say THEY ruined my life.

I came from a very dysfunctional family that caused my emotional problems and screwed up the direction of my life. So, in all fairness I can't blame the JWs for everything. Even though my family life was not so good, I am grateful however I was not raised a JW. I at least had a somewhat "normal" childhood in that I had the holidays and was able to hang around other children and not feel left out.

I am angry though about the deceit and the changed teachings and the fake brotherhood.

LHG

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