trevor: you sound like you've been happily married for a long time and have it all figured out!
What Do Men & Women Want From Each Other???
by minimus 34 Replies latest jw friends
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wozadummy
Loyal Love (OOPS WAS'NT THAT A KINGDOM SONG)
When a man with a big belly has a wife who thinks it's cuddly
When a woman with a larger butt has a husband who says she is shapely
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zagor
Combine true lady with a wild heart and what do you get?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRrnNIxFug8
Blue jean baby, L.A. lady, seamstress for the band
Pretty eyed, pirate smile,..... -
Abandoned
No games.
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lonelysheep
Friendship & Sex
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JWdaughter
Gay Boyfriend was hilarious. My two best friends in HS were gay, and its all pretty much true. . .except for the part of you that wants to be wanted by someone.
Its not sex as much as this part of me that wants to be desired and loved by someone more than anything else in the world. Sex is good too:)
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JWdaughter
My aunt and uncle are like two peas in a pod. . .they both got rounder in complementary areas. . .his belly got bigger, her breasts did, and they fit together cute when they hug. And they are so in love with each other that it is endearing to see them look at each other. They are in their early 60's now. I have always admired how they were with each other. They each came out of nightmare marriages with a half dozen kids between them (his ex kept his from him-back in the dark ages of child custody) and her sons were nothing but trouble since their dad abused the whole family until she finally escaped. Their son together is no prize. They have had money and health problems throughout their marriage. They are just trouble magnets in every way (and not even JWs!!!) However, their love and loyalty to each other has always been an inspiration to me-because no matter what they were going through, you could see they were still passionate about each other, tender with each others feelings and loving in every way. He put up with her crazy recipes and she put up with his interests. They had a lot of things in common and just mesh in every way. And other than some grief their kids have given them, I have not seen them unhappy. Whatever it is that folks want from each other, I guess they found it. And still have it when they are older, fat, and not quite middle class. I don't think it is sex or money or a simple easy life. If I write a romance novel it will be dedicated to them!
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Merry Magdalene
Love your aunt and uncle story JWdaughter
What I wanted (and expected) when I first got married was an adventurous best friend who would explore the world with me while we explored each other; a mutual sharing and reshaping of the good and bad in each of us (acceptance combined with natural transformation, not attempts to change and manipulate each other); appreciation, kindness, respect, solidarity, comfort. I won't tell you what I got instead.What did he want? I can't speak for him on that.
What I have now is someone who tells me I'm his best friend, who wants to explore me and the world with me, who tells me I make him a better person (and I feel likewise), who displays kindness and gentleness, expresses for appreciation his parents and siblings, is intelligent, concerned about the world around him, loves kids, and is a man of faith and conscience. But who knows what it would be like in the midst of shared real-world pressures? Hopefully the same, only more so. Hopefully we'll have a chance to find out some day...
~Merry
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sammielee24
we can thank Clinton for making it a NON sex activity
I can't buy into that statement - sorry. Look at the MTV videos - check out the lyrics of the songs that a lot of youth have been listening to for years..it's all about casual sex, drugs and violence. I can recall having this conversation with my coworker years ago when a poll was done asking teenagers if they considered oral sex to be actual sex - answer - 80% of them answered no. This isn't the fault of a politician, its the fault of parents, artists and society as a whole. How many people sit down and actually talk about this with their kids? I only know of one woman and she had to down a few beer just to open up the conversation.
I think men and women cheat on average the same percentage but I also think that they do so for sometimes different reasons. I also don't believe that everyone does cheat while in a relationship. It's all about respect. sammieswife.
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Terry
What humans want (male or female) is the joy of being alive. They want the ecstacy of the peak experience shared with somebody like-minded. A grief shared is half a grief; a joy shared is twice a joy. That sort of thing.
The problem is this. Men don't take the time or trouble to learn how to share themselves and women pretend to enjoy men just the way they are. If they end up living together the man expects life to continue the way it began. Women, however, think the repairs can begin by changing the man one step at a time.
Men won't change and women grow disgusted and depressed. Men can't enjoy sex with a sullen mate and women would rather not be sexual when the joy is gone from their fantasy of sharing with an "improved" mate. Or, in some case, the sex is academic.
Once the joy of being alive and the ecstacy of the peak moment are out of the picture the woman cannot function as a happy being. A man, however, is like a dog with a food dish and frisbee to catch: clueless!
Men are not evolved beings. There, I said it! Women are not only more evolved, they are deeper and see the future as something to improve towards. Men live in the moment. If it ain't broke; don't fix it.
Marriages dissolve into disappointment, drown in failed expectations and wither like unrealized dreams.
A young woman is full of the joy of life and will do anything for the man she loves (or is hot for!) Young men think it is always going to be this way with everything centered on their own pleasure. Men are either full of bullshit or don't even try. They just learn to take...and take...and take....
A young woman eventually wises up about what ridiculously selfish dogs men are and starts becoming choosier. Men, however, don't wise up and start finding themselves with dumber and dumber women whom they now view as beneath their contempt. A man's idealism turns sour in the worst way: all women are stupid bitches and need to be tricked into this and that. It is devolution.
Woman lose their idealism differently. The don't view ALL men a certain way. They put their dreams on a back burner and start to settle like a lawyer in an out of court settlement. They chose a suitable man; some raw material they think they can work with. It is all downhill from there. The man is like something brought home from the dogpound who is either trained properly and becomes a drone, or; is untrainable and becomes "the thing that stays on the couch."
The only escape from any of this is total honesty which is next to impossible for men with women and women with women. Men with men tell the truth....and it is awful.
I don't like men very much. And, I am one!
I'd love to find an intelligent, sensitive, light-hearted woman with curiousity about life and the joy of being alive who wants to share things. Instead, I find the prospect rather dim and I don't even try anymore. The disappointment kills the initiative. A woman will have to fall out of the sky on my head to change all this. The fall will probably kill us both.